My Approach to Helping
Life is a journey with unexpected challenges and at times suffering. We all need supports and strategies to rediscover our inner strengths. I work in a partnership with you as we explore and unpack your relationships, your roles and your sense of self. There is always hope and meaning even in the darkest places. Also in all relationships there are times when one or both partners feel hopeless, frustrated, betrayed or deeply hurt by the other. In both individual and couple counseling we work together to develop new techniques towards not only coping, but towards finding renewed hope and meaning. I love what I do!
Over the last 25 years of working with stress, anxiety, pain and trauma I have become increasingly inspired by the strength and resilience of others. I work with a trauma-informed approach; the ultimate goal is to cope and thus \"get up in the morning\" with a purpose. I cautiously unpack trauma histories replacing them with new meanings and hope.
I am open-minded, authentic and warm. I use an eclectic approach with the model that is most suited at the time to your personality, current situation and your unique needs. I tend to go back and forth organically between models as people are complex and cannot be pigeon holed into any one way. Experience joy, live in the moment and be kind to yourself!
More Info About My Practice
I work predominantly virtually (Doxy.Me) and have been impressed with the progress using virtual therapy! I have also had experience in provincial welfare and mental health agencies. I have been involved in clinical assessments and in both individual and couple psychotherapy. I have been trained in multi modalities and use an inter change of models depending on each persons need. I work in a partnership with you making a safe and non-judgmental space for you to truly unpack your story.
I work with a trauma-informed approach meaning that I am always aware of the overall goal being to cope and \"get up in the morning\". I cautiously unpack trauma histories, all the while replacing them with new meanings and hope. I use an eclectic approach, including attachment therapy, interpersonal therapy, meaning-making existential techniques, mindfulness based stress reduction aspects, cognitive behavioral therapy, contemplative, humanistic, couple and family systems, intimate partner violence, psycho dynamic, relational, family of origin, person-centered, grief work, strength based and solution focused. I use the therapy model that is most suited at the time to the the specific personality type, current situation and the persons needs. I tend to go back and forth organically between models as people are complex and cannot be pigeon holed into any one way. A huge part of my approach though is the authentic compassion and commitment that I feel for those that I partner with! I truly believe in the ability to heal and ultimately thrive in ones life regardless of the past trauma and extreme challenges.
Importance of the Client-Therapist Alliance
The potential of therapy to impact is not all about the skills or experience of the therapist. It is also about the connection or "click" of the client and therapist. The client needs to feel a comfort level or positive vibe from the therapist. It's almost like making a new friend (with professional boundaries). There are some people you meet socially and don't feel a warmth towards or they leave you feeling uncomfortable. There are others you meet and instantly feel a good connection. Listen to yourself and check out if the automatic "feeling" is right. This can be done through a virtual conversation before we start therapy or even a phone call.