James Christensen,Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT)

My Approach to Helping

More Info About My Practice

I take a direct, no-nonsense approach to couples counseling.

I will tell you exactly what you can do right now to improve your relationships.

I'm comfortable working with deception, infidelity, affairs, narcissism, manipulation, codependency, and sexual problems.

I have already helped hundreds of couples, and I can help you too.

Couples counseling and marriage therapy is all I do.

Your first session is free: you have nothing to lose, and so much to gain.

Are you ready to have more light and love in your life?

Can you imagine what it would feel ike t be able to talk about anything with the person you love? If no subject were to hard to handle?

Can you imagine being in love again, like you were at the beginning, but even deeper?

I believe in the power of love to transform lives. I want you to experience the thrill of falling in love all over again.

Specific Issue(s) I'm Skilled at Helping With

I have extensive experience with sexual problems, narcissism, infidelity, codependency, gaslighting, manipulation, and dishonesty in marriage.

I specialize in working with high-conflict couples who don't want to get divorced, but are also tired of the way their relationship works right now.

My training and education:
Master's Degree in Psychology from the Western Institute for Social Research, Berkley, CA, 2021
EMDR Trauma Therapy with Philip Manfield, 2022
Accelerated Resolution Trauma Therapy with Cathy Long, 2022
Gottman Couples Therapy, 2022
Generative Trance Therapy with Steve Gilligan, 2023 and 2024
Crucible Neurobiological Therapy with Natalie Westera, Barbara Fairfield, and Lacy Stump, 2024

My Role as a Therapist

I'm here to walk the path with you, not to tell you where to go.

Therapy isn't about words, it's about actions. It's about changing the way we feel and the way we behave.

Therapy is about becoming the person you are meant to be. It's about letting go of the emotional and mental limitations that have held you prisoner for so long.

Therapy is about feeling safe, powerful, and protected. It's about knowing you will be OK.

How My Own Struggles Made Me a Better Therapist

My wife and I were on our way to Air Force pilot training on September 11th, 2001. Military life changed that day, and our marriage started to crumble under the pressure. At first we blamed each other, but after years of study and prayer we learned that our outdated childhood survival instincts were making our marriage miserable. We felt constantly triggered, we avoided important conversations, and we generally made each other miserable.

It took us a long time to find a helpful couples counselor. We spent lots of time and money on therapy that wasn?t helpful. After many years of frustration, we finally found professionals who could help us grow and change.

We learned that relationship repair is not about fixing the other person. The temptation to focus on each other was so persistent, but we eventually learned that we only have power to change ourselves.

My wife and I still find marriage and parenting incredibly challenging, but it is now a challenge we face together. We feel safe around each other, and we are able to support our children in ways we never could before. We can talk about almost anything without fighting and stonewalling.

As a counselor, I?m calm, compassionate, and focused on results. Relationships repair is about changing behavior, not words, so I focus on what is actually happening in your relationship, and what you can do about it. I know what it feels like to be trapped in a difficult marriage, and I know there is a way to create hope, healing, and reconciliation.

I will talk straight to you. Dealing with deception is an important part of relationship therapy. If I don?t think you?re being straight with me, I will tell you that. I will help you learn to talk straight to each other, using courage instead of anger.

My first priority is to help you feel safe in your relationship. We will also work on communication, collaboration, and healthy conflict. You will leave every session challenged and inspired, with a clear sense of what you need to do to improve your relationship.

I want you to leave every session equipped, challenged, and inspired to improve your relationship. I am passionate about what I do, and I believe in the power of therapy to change lives. The work you do will benefit you, your partner, and your children.