My Approach to Helping
Depression and anxiety can feel like a burden, and grief and trauma can seem inescapable. Addictions and anger can make you feel like you have lost control. As a counselor, we hope to join you in caring about these problems as much as you do, and be able to find a path that leads out.
I believe much of counseling success depends on connection with you. To create this kind of momentum for change, we ask you for feedback on how the sessions are going. We start with establishing a desired outcome, and look at what behaviors or thoughts can lead to your desired outcomes. It is hopefully collaborative, innovative, and effective. Often, there is internal conflict between parts of yourself. One part of you may want this, and another part of you may want that. Sorting out our different and competing needs is important. We explore how you feel about your options, and listen closely to not only what you are needing, but whatever it is you may be fearing.
More Info About My Practice
In addition to healing from depression, anxiety, and trauma and managing addictions, anger, and grief, we specialize in high conflict in relationships. Whether it is with a partner, spouse, or child, we use a conflict resolution strategy that has become reliable over time in marriage conflict, divorce mediation, co-parenting, reunification therapy and supervised visitation. We also can establish parenting strategies that are more comfortable for parents with less anger and anxiety. Except with parenting, finding solutions in these situations is a mutual process, and if both parties have different goals, mutually acceptable solutions may be limited. In that case, we can still make recommendations.
Importance of the Client-Therapist Alliance
The strengths of the client along with the connection with the therapist is the single most important factor in achieving the goals of the client. If the client feels supported, change is inevitable. When working with couples or families, the therapist has to be seen as an advocate for each couple or family member. Equal regard is important.