My Approach to Helping
Are you overwhelmed by the demands of life? Do you find yourself frustrated in your relationships? Maybe you know what could make you happy, but you just don't know how to make it happen. My goal is to help you understand what's getting in your way, to transform old patterns, and find constructive ways to tackle life's challenges.
Whether you are struggling with depression, anxiety, relationships, past abuse, loss or stress, therapy can leave you feeling stronger and more self-assured. I am fully invested in your feeling better, and am willing to be with you through all of your difficulties. I am empathic, interactive and respectful, as you embark on this life changing journey.
I begin by helping you discover what is maintaining an unwanted pattern. Often times there is a valid reason that a negative behavior or belief exists, which is called it's emotional truth. This is often out of your awareness and needs to be brought fully into your consciousness. If not, it will maintain its hold on you no matter how much you try to make it go away.
Once we bring forth the underlying emotional truth of the unwanted pattern, we can proceed with ways to help you release it. This is a powerful process that can produce deep and lasting results. I have found Coherence Therapy and Hypnotherapy to be the best methods to make these deep inner shifts happen.
I am fully invested in my work, always learning and growing. I have been studying with a co-founder of Coherence Therapy, and the founder of DARe (Dynamic Attachment Repatterining experience), which combines somatic and attachment therapy.
How Psychotherapy Can Help
Psychotherapy can be a powerful way to make changes. Coherence Therapy, the main modality I use, is based on the brain science of memory reconsolidation. This means that the emotional charge of an event can be released, while the autobiographical memory stays intact.
Coherence Therapy is designed to first help you discover the "emotional truths" of a negative experience. It's important to complete this step, otherwise your unwanted symptompattern will remain. Once this is brought to your full awareness, there are then steps to help you release them. In this process, your brain forms new emotional meanings that feel true and serve you better. This is how change happens, by having a different emotional experience of an event.
Had a Negative Therapy Experience?
If you had a negative therapy experience, first I want to say how sorry I am. I'm glad, however, that you are not giving up on therapy all together!
Two things I hear people complain about regarding other therapists is either the therapist doesn't engage enough in the sessions, or the therapist is too pathologizing. You might have had a different experience altogether, but I will address these two.
First, I consider myself an interactive therapist. I don't just sit and listen. I help you to identify the patternsymptom that you want changed, and take specific steps to address it. I collaborate with you in this process, making adjustments that suit you the best as we go along. I know how important it is to find the right pace and manner of working together.
Second, I don't pathologize because I believe that every negative patternsymptom makes sense in some way. It might be causing you suffering, but at some point in your life, it was a subconscious decision that was the best way to cope at the time. We need to bring that forth first before we can take the steps to help you release it. Otherwise it will maintain it's hold on you.
If you are willing to give therapy another try, I'd be happy to work with you. You can commit to a few sessions to see how it goes, and I am open to your deciding to continue or to stop. The therapy is for you, and I'm invested in your finding a therapist who works the best for you.