Shame

“It is only when we forget all our learning that we begin to know.” —Henry David Thoreau Hakomi therapy studies your organization of present experience. As such, it can be ... Read More

Thank you for your honest question. If anyone were to tell you that you’re “going straight to hell” for this, believe me, you’d have plenty of company on the way down—and an especially ... Read More

In many families, the belief that children must honor their parents is a given. It may be seen as a tenet of the family’s culture, religion, or may be so fundamental that it is experienced ... Read More

You are not a coward. The only person to blame in this story is the pastor, who bullied an 8-year-old by taking advantage of faith, youth, and innocence, who knew his actions were against ... Read More

As someone who is almost completely deaf in one ear, I understand what it is like to have a disability that no one knows about unless I tell them. Mental health issues such as anxiety, ... Read More

Editor’s note: This article is the first in a series exploring why use of the term “patient” is harmful in the context of psychotherapy. For an introduction on the topic, click here. The ... Read More

I sat down with a heterosexual couple who were just beginning their work with me. Since the woman seemed visibly agitated, I turned to her first and asked her why they had made the appointment. ... Read More

“Our wounds are often the openings into the best and most beautiful part of us.”  – David Richo I think the most courageous acts a human can do are to accept his or her own flaws ... Read More

Ask any person on the street which sex struggles more with monogamy, and they’ll probably wonder why you even have to ask. Conventional wisdom is that men crave novelty, and some ... Read More

When Amy Chua’s 2011 book, Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother, was released in 2011, it sparked a firestorm of controversy and a significant backlash. Reviewers seemed to either love ... Read More

Social anxiety (SAD) can be a debilitating condition. The symptoms of SAD include fear, shame, guilt, depression, and avoidance of situations that trigger any of those emotions. People ... Read More

Eating issues (ED) such as anorexia (AN), bulimia, and binging/purging can lead to many physical and psychological problems. Long term ED can cause damage to the heart and other organs, ... Read More