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Social Inadequacy: Why We Feel It and How to Address It June 23, 2014 . 16 Comments
For people who define themselves as socially awkward, the perceived risk of being seen in endlessly negative ways—inadequate, ugly, boring, stupid, anxious, depressed, empty, arrogant, ... Read More
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Seven Ways to Start Overcoming Impostor Syndrome May 29, 2014 . 8 Comments
Have you ever felt like a fake or a fraud in your workplace or graduate program? Worry that other people might “figure you out?” Impostor syndrome is that insecure feeling, deep down ... Read More
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Confidence, Self-Esteem, and the KLT Factor: Know, Like, Trust April 1, 2014 . 8 Comments
Have you heard of something called the KLT factor? It’s a hot topic among marketing types. KLT stands for know, like, and trust. The power of the KLT factor comes from the fact potential ... Read More
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Love More, Try Harder: Rewriting Files of Self-Doubt March 24, 2014 . 18 Comments
People who tell me they are in one-sided relationships often hear me say, “Oh! Love more, try harder?” It’s my way of validating a coping style often used by people when a relationship ... Read More
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Creative Blocks from A to Z: Failure November 14, 2013 . 4 Comments
Editor’s note: This article is the sixth in an A-Z series on issues related to creative blocks. This month we look at how fear of failure can affect creativity. One of the most common ... Read More
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After Years of Therapy, I’m Ready to Give Up. Am I Hopeless? July 19, 2013 . 20 Comments
Thanks so much for your question. Boy, it sounds like you’re going through a really tough time, and I’m sorry to hear about your childhood abuse; I know how intrusive and debilitating ... Read More
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Creative Blocks from A to Z: Conflicts July 10, 2013 . 6 Comments
Editor’s note: This article is the third in an A-Z series on issues related to creative blocks. This month the topic is conflicts. “The creative process starts with a sense that ... Read More
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Creative Blocks from A to Z: Anxiety April 29, 2013 . 2 Comments
Editor’s note: The following article is the first part of an A-Z series on issues related to creative blocks. This month we explore the topic of anxiety. What is the connection between ... Read More
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Focusing on the Facts Can Help You Manage Anxiety and Fear April 17, 2013 . 6 Comments
How is one to cope with the fear and uncertainty of a national media saturated with negative and frightening images of one tragedy after another? There is no need to identify specific incidents; ... Read More
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Emotional Sherpa, Part III: Toward a Relationship of Trust April 9, 2013 . 2 Comments
My client, Alex, had told me early on in therapy that he had a secret. As we progressed and climbed higher and higher in his therapeutic journey, we realized that certain revelations needed ... Read More
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When Failure Takes Over March 12, 2013 . 4 Comments
Sometimes people who have a tendency to be depressed get “triggered” and begin what I call “creating a case against themselves.” Failing at something can be one of those triggers, ... Read More
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Learn, Bless, and Release March 4, 2013 . 7 Comments
At first glance, the injunction to bless and release sounds just beautiful, and so evolved. On reflection, it is missing a crucial component: learning from the experience before you let ... Read More