The GoodTherapy Blog

Life does not always turn out the way we’d like. We carry our stories. In some moments, we might feel like kings. In others, we feel like failures. We feel grotesque. For some, the ... Read More

Editor’s note: This article is the second in a two-part series. See Avoidant Attachment, Part 1: The Dependence Dilemma. When we live in a continual state of freeze, we aren’t ... Read More

Editor’s note: This article is the first in a two-part series. See Avoidant Attachment, Part 2: The Downside of Preservation. We’re in a relationship, and we feel nothing. Or we ... Read More

Editor’s note: This article is the second in a two-part series. See Part 1: Opposing Attachment Styles. The conflict is both a fight for and a protection against intimacy. If we can hold ... Read More

Editor’s note: This article is the first in a two-part series. See Part 2: A Built-In Path to Healing. Few of us might consider pain a gift. To be clear: Relational trauma/abuse is not ... Read More

The experience of trauma often shapes our beliefs of self, other, and world. In turn, those beliefs shape our relationships, pervade our families, spread to our communities, and stretch ... Read More

“It’s like a mother: when the baby is crying, she picks up the baby and she holds the baby tenderly in her arms. Your pain, your anxiety is your baby. You have to take care ... Read More

Editor’s note: This article represents the second of two parts. The first part moves from disconnection to autopilot, then from autopilot to self-awareness. “Until you make the unconscious ... Read More

Editor’s note: This article represents the first of two parts. The second part, which appears here, moves from awareness to attuned self-compassion, then from compassion to integration. “Do ... Read More

  Trauma dysregulates the body. It moves energy levels away from baseline to extremes of hyperarousal (“too much,” panic, overwhelm) and sometimes hypoarousal (“low,” lethargy, ... Read More

Trauma often leaves us living in a seemingly hostile world, feeling ineffective, believing that help cannot be expected. To some degree, the concept of limited internal power and limitless ... Read More