My Approach to Helping
My approach is very simple. I do not claim to be the expert in a client's life. I am merely a well educated guide to help the client through whatever issues they are needing help with. I practice therapy from a narrative therapy standpoint. I help individuals, couples, and families edit their own stories. I help them develop the tools needed to overcome their issues.
More Info About My Practice
I am straight forward and embrace who I am. I have been a part of various kink communities for over 2 decades. In those communities, I learned a lot about communication, consent, and boundaries. Funny thing, almost everyone at some point needs help with those three things.
I don't push anyone into those communities, but I do educate and help people explore who they are in a judgment free area.
My Role as a Therapist
My role is not to fix your problems. I don't have that power. I view my role more as an editor. I will help you identify what the actual problem is, how it impacts your life, and ways we can work together to find ways of minimizing that problem in the future.
What Makes up a Problem?
I view a problem as a gremlin. It is something that is either actively or passively working to cause chaos in your life. Some common examples of gremlins include internal struggles, such as anxiety, depression, grief, or even past trauma. Gremlins can also be external factors, such as poor work environment, family drama, issues with your partner(s). Either way, gremlins have some key defining characteristics. They love to isolate and remove you from your support. They also love to be buried and people pretend that everything is going well.
Regardless of what gremlin you struggle with, it is important to know that you are not the problem. The gremlin is.