My Approach to Helping
I work with people who are feeling overwhelmed with emotions, in their relationships, at their jobs, or just with everyday life. Many of my clients feel creatively blocked or cut off from a feeling of connection to themselves and the larger world. Themes of not feeling seen or heard, not being fully accepted as who they really are, and even feeling unsure of their identity and how they fit in are common topics for clients who come to see me in therapy.
Grief and loss are common threads that run through many of the stories my clients share with me. In my clinical training at Camarillo Hospice as well as in my private practice, I have witnessed many individuals, couples, and families navigate the painful territory of grief and loss in the aftermath of a death. I believe that even in the darkest moments, when things are at their most painful, we are still changing and transforming into something new. There are always parts of us that want to continue to grow and flourish, and this intense process of change is not designed for us to go through alone.
I companion grieving clients through a variety of losses that go beyond death: loss of a relationship, identity, a job, family, financial comfort, safety. Other losses are rooted in past traumas, unresolved conflicts, marginalization, social injustice, climate change, and aging or life transitions. Sometimes just naming the loss is soothing, as it locates us in the sea of emotional experiences we may find ourselves in.
I also work with women who identify as childfree by choice or involuntarily childless. Often, our work centers around disenfranchised grief, or depression and anxiety around how one's identity without children does not fit into the status quo. Mid-life and beyond can often highlight the challenges that come from aging without children in a pronatalist society.
My approach is rooted in depth psychology. I pay close attention to what is being said and what is not being said. This helps us explore what voices, feelings, thoughts, and stories lie underneath the surface, and we work to free their energy up in our sessions together so they can become positive resources for you. Deep listening and reflection as well as body awareness, art, and writing may be tools we use in our time together.
I am a compassionately curious therapist who is awed by our human capacity to grieve, heal, and connect with the larger world around us in positive, powerful ways. I have a whimsical nature and fold in humor and creative imagining into my work with others. Amid our suffering, I believe in the potency of our ability to transform as we meet the edges that are offered to us and move though the ups and downs of life.