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4 Ways to Be Kinder to Yourself and Build Self-Empathy
May 24, 2018 .
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“You are a failure.” “You look ugly today.” “Everyone’s life is better than yours.” Have you ever said these things to a close friend? How about a family member? I’m guessing ... Read More
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Secrets of Self-Esteem: How to Work on Loving Yourself
April 10, 2018 .
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Some sayings might be well-intended, but that doesn’t make them true, let alone easy to hear. Case in point: “You can’t find love until you learn to love yourself.” The people ... Read More
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Are You Ever Too Old to Benefit from Therapy?
February 25, 2018 .
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“With aging, you earn the right to be loyal to yourself.” —Frances McDormand “I don’t mind aging. I’m glad to be aging. I’ll never die young.” —Elizabeth ... Read More
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How I Learned to Honor My Emotions and Support My Own Well-Being
January 29, 2018 .
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This year, I chose to stay home over the holidays. I didn’t choose to stay home because I don’t love my family or because I didn’t want to see them. I chose to stay home for the ... Read More
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The Temptation of Self-Rejection—and the Promise of Self-Acceptance
September 18, 2017 .
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We do not get to choose the content of our minds, but we certainly try. There are many things in life—inside and outside of us—we do not choose or control, and that fall short of our ... Read More
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I Hate My Parents—and I Hate Myself Because of It May 5, 2017 . 58 Comments
Dear GoodTherapy.org, I’ll just say it: I hate my parents with every fiber of my being. I’m pretty sure they hate me, too. My dad beat me almost every day when I was little, ... Read More
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Inhale Pain, Exhale Joy: How Tonglen Helps Create Unity and Compassion
April 12, 2017 .
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“If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.” —Dalai Lama Tonglen is the Buddhist practice of giving and taking. More ... Read More
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‘Should’ This, ‘Should’ That: Learning to Embrace What Is
May 4, 2016 .
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As a therapist, I hear the word “should” often. Usually it appears just before a spike in anxiety, a precipitous drop in self-esteem, or a sudden crying jag: “I should be over this ... Read More
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Go Easy on Yourself: 5 Simple Ways to Boost Self-Compassion
March 8, 2016 .
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Self-compassion is one of those terms that has gained popularity of late but remains misunderstood by many. Self-compassion comes down to treating yourself as you would treat someone else ... Read More
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The Cost of Caring: 10 Ways to Prevent Compassion Fatigue
February 9, 2016 .
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Compassion fatigue can be a serious occupational hazard for those in any kind of helping profession, with a majority of those in the field reporting experiencing at least some degree of ... Read More
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A Healing Response to Pain: Mindfulness and Self-Compassion
February 9, 2016 .
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How do you react when you’re in pain? Do you resist it, ignore it, or push it away? Do you get consumed by it? Would you like to learn a more healing and compassionate way to respond? To ... Read More
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Courage, Vulnerability, and Strength: How Therapy Empowers Us
September 24, 2015 .
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Psychotherapy can be about more than treating symptoms; it can be a path to living a more fulfilling life. People often begin therapy to alleviate symptoms—a worthy goal, to be sure. ... Read More
