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Don’t Fall Into the Trap of the “Relief Divorce” October 5, 2011 . 9 Comments
I have been in practice long enough to see many couples and families develop over the past thirty years. While there are countless stories over a full range of topics, one that greatly ... Read More
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I Said I Was Sorry, So Why Isn’t That Enough? September 27, 2011 . 17 Comments
I can’t tell you how many times I have heard this from couples during a session. Something big happens between them, like one person cheated, the offending party apologizes but the difficulty ... Read More
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How to Move Beyond “I Don’t Know” with Teens September 12, 2011 . 21 Comments
“I don’t know.” Is it the stock answer teens give their parents for every question? Does it mean more than just a lack of an answer? How do we get them to speak to us and to have ... Read More
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Are You and Your Spouse Like Ships Passing in the Night? September 8, 2011 . 12 Comments
“I’ve made up my mind,” Dana sighed deeply. “I’m going to stick it out–for the kids. I won’t cheat. I have no intention of that and I don’t ... Read More
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Why Do Women in Committed Relationships Lose Sexual Desire?
September 2, 2011 .
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How often do you want sex? And is that enough? Not wanting enough sex is the big problem for most women who consult me as a clinical sexologist. And most sex therapists will agree that ... Read More
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The ‘I’m Right, You’re Wrong’ Argument in Couples Therapy July 27, 2011 . 16 Comments
It’s a classic. Of all the themes in the history of relational strife, the I’m Right, You’re Wrong story is by far the most common. Like many things, we often take this argument for ... Read More
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The Fear of Hurting the Other and the Inhibition of Self July 19, 2011 . 19 Comments
Even when it is unintended, some people find it intolerable to hurt someone they love. To experience hurting the other can create shame, guilt and strong “I am a bad person” feelings. ... Read More
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Shadow Work: Transforming Emotional Suffering into Freedom
July 13, 2011 .
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If you read last month’s blog, Creativity vs Shadow, you will remember a brief mention of Deepak and Gotham Chopra’s book, The Seven Spiritual Laws of Superheroes. In the book Chopra ... Read More
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Should You Attend a Friend’s Wedding Even If Your Heart Says “No”? July 12, 2011 . 19 Comments
Yesterday Ellen walked into my office looking annoyed and confused. “I don’t know what to do. Robin invited me to her wedding and I don’t want to go, but I think I should. It’s ... Read More
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Living with Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde July 8, 2011 . 14 Comments
I recently stumbled across a new blog called Infinite Daze where the author poignantly writes about her daily struggles with Fibromyalgia and Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (CFS). In a recent ... Read More
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Balancing Codependent Tendencies: Improving Relationships through Self-Care
July 5, 2011 .
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Are you a person who takes care of everyone else before yourself? Do you believe you should put yourself last? If you routinely take care of others’ needs before your own, then you ... Read More
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Resentful Compliance Versus Commitment June 27, 2011 . 4 Comments
The definitions of resentful compliance and commitment can help you understand how the differences between them can alter the course of a relationship. The Effects of Resentful Compliance Resentful ... Read More
