Attachment

Editor’s note: This is the first of two parts exploring Hakomi experiential psychotherapy. “The more healthy relationships a child has, the more likely he will be to recover from ... Read More

When we use the word “needy,” we are often describing someone who is feeling alone or vulnerable and putting their needs on the table. In our culture, “neediness” is a bad word ... Read More

This is a gut-wrenching position you find yourself in. On the one hand, you’ve done some great work with this therapist and built a strong relationship with her; on the other hand, ... Read More

Last week in my hometown, there was a shooting at a local high school. Unfortunately, two freshman students lost their lives. The reality is that there could have been hundreds of lives ... Read More

Parents sometimes find themselves worrying whether they’re interfering too much or too little in their children’s friendships. But a parent’s relationship with his or ... Read More

No matter what age children are when their parents divorce, it is a major, life-altering experience. This is true for children who live at home as well as for adult children. The first ... Read More

My adoptive mother had lost her father to brain cancer while in adolescence, and developed borderline personality (“between neurosis and psychosis”) due to unresolved loss, being vulnerable ... Read More

Worry can be glue that cements parents and children, making their attachments so tight that separation and individuation are impeded. My work with young adult children and with parents ... Read More

Thank you for your willingness to share so much of yourself in this very rich, complex question. It sounds like you have experienced a tremendous amount of loss over the past couple of ... Read More

Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself. They come through you but not from you, And though they are with you yet they belong ... Read More

Wow. It sounds like you feel like you’ve really had the rug pulled out from under you. It’s certainly understandable; you’ve had daily contact for three years and it has ... Read More

Editor’s note: Tammy Nelson, PhD, is the author of The New Monogamy and Getting the Sex You Want. Her continuing education presentation for GoodTherapy.org, titled Couples in Recovery ... Read More