sister-gloating-with-giftsFavoritism is the tendency to offer unearned affection, benefits, gifts, or opportunities to a person or group based on personal feelings.

What is Favoritism?

Favoritism occurs any time one person out of a group receives special benefits that they have not earned, and most people display favoritism in at least a few contexts. Examples of favoritism include:

  • A person’s preference toward one’s own racial or economic group in the context of hiring, friendship, or romantic opportunities
  • A parent’s selection of one child over another for whom the parent shows more affection, offers more gifts, or provides fewer punishments
  • An employer identification of a favored employee who is offered additional time off, extended time to complete projects, or protection from layoffs

Many people tend to show favoritism to people they believe are like them. A parent might be more empathetic toward a child who is most like that parent; an employer might offer special benefits to an employee he/she wishes to mentor or who comes from the same group as the employer. Favoritism can also play a role in racism and other forms of prejudice, and people in positions of power often must actively work to combat favoritism and avoid implementing unfair or discriminatory strategies.

Favoritism in Mental Health

Favoritism is a common theme in family therapy when a child or other family member feels that he is less favored than another family member. Whether this favoritism is real or perceived, it can have serious negative consequences for a person’s self-esteem and behavior, and can interfere with family relationships. Victims of favoritism—people who are disfavored—can suffer chronic frustration and feelings of worthlessness. Occasionally, they may seek mental health treatment to deal with the depression and anxiety that can sometimes result from such treatment. Even therapists are susceptible to displaying favoritism and must work to actively combat a tendency to favor people who remind them of themselves, who are members of their group, or who they perceive as more likeable.

Race theorists have argued that people in privileged racial groups must be aware of their tendency to show favoritism to their own racial group; this awareness may be the first step in avoiding discriminatory practices.


  1. Bonilla-Silva, Eduardo. Racism without Racists: Color-blind Racism and the Persistence of Racial Inequality in the United States. Lanham, MD: Rowman & Littlefield, 2003. Print.
  2. “Understanding Favoritism.” Understanding Prejudice. N.p., n.d. Web. 27 Dec. 2012.

Last Updated: 08-7-2015

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  • Miss Petra J.

    January 26th, 2019 at 8:40 PM

    Our question is about favoritism. Is it right to request a therapist of my own ethnicity, church, and nationality? The reason we ask is because my local friendly therapist told me I am gifted, a pretty nice kind of person, my anxiety is natural, and my depressed moods are from female trouble, and I have a lively hope of recovery. How then did my foreign therapist figure I was sort of a junk type, difficult to understand, and with little hope to treat? Get our concern? Thank you.

  • Nakul

    May 10th, 2022 at 8:43 AM

    Nepotism can be described as a variety of practices related to favoritism; it can mean simply hiring one’s own family members, or it can mean hiring and advancing unqualified or under-qualified family members based simply on the familial relationship.

  • davejhil

    June 23rd, 2023 at 11:18 PM

    When you have more than one child, regardless of their gender, they should be treated equally.

  • DPJ

    March 8th, 2024 at 11:43 PM

    Equally and fairly! Should these words be used when apply to raise and nurture your children?

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