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Eating Disorders and the Therapeutic Relationship
Eating disorders, the most lethal of all the mental health disorders, kill and maim 6 to 13% of their victims, 87% of whom are children under the age of 20. “Best practice” ... Read More
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When Therapists Behave Unethically
In the past month alone, I have had two new clients report egregious ethical violations from their previous therapists. In one case, a male therapist made repeated narcissistic advances ... Read More
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From Surviving to Thriving: Overcoming Self-Rejection
Our beings are multifaceted. Our bodies, minds, hearts, and spirits all have needs. Our bodies need to be moved and nourished, but not to excess. Our minds and hearts need learning as well ... Read More
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When Labels Limit: How Rigid Identities Harm Mental Health
Imagine these people: a professor at an elite university, a stay-at-home mother, and someone with depression. Labels like these are abbreviated ways of describing prominent aspects of ourselves ... Read More
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Are You a Toxic Person? 10 Questions to Ask Yourself
I post countless memes on my business page about letting toxic people go, setting boundaries with difficult people, and having a balance between attending to your relationships while also ... Read More
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The Problem with Sarcasm
I was surprised recently by a discussion among members of a group of therapists describing how they use sarcasm in their personal lives with their children and their spouses. I had assumed ... Read More
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Annoyed by Your Therapist? Why You Should Speak Your Mind
In day-to-day life, we often spend a lot of time holding in the feelings and thoughts we have about others. These thoughts may be about people we love, someone we’re in relationship with, ... Read More
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Is CBT the ‘Gold Standard’? Examining the Evidence
As a therapist working with diverse people who have diverse minds and diverse emotional struggles, I call upon a diverse range of ideas and skills for helping. I try (emphasis on try) not ... Read More
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Is Walking on Eggshells Making You Resentful?
“I spent so many years walking on eggshells … never doing or saying the right thing. One day I decided I’d had enough and stomped all over them. Those broken eggshells cut me deeply ... Read More
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Perfectionism and Burnout: Address Stress and Find Balance
The word “perfectionist” may bring to mind someone who is the picture of tidy. Or it might inspire the thought of a bookshelf, alphabetized and organized by genre. Perfectionism is ... Read More
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Is It Anxiety or Depression? How to Tell the Difference
Many people who experience anxiety or depression know the symptoms of each are not always well-defined. For instance, they can overlap. Commonly overlapping symptoms of anxiety and depression ... Read More
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Can Sexuality Change? What Sexual Fluidity Is and Is Not
Many people see sexuality as key to their identity. But sexuality can change over time. These changes often cause shifts in identity, experiences, and relationships. Sexuality: A Continuum ... Read More