My Approach to Helping
My approach to helping is to first listen. Are relationship issues causing you to feel alone and distant from your loved one(s)? Are painful events from your past haunting you and preventing you from fully enjoying your life? Is anxiety or stress keeping the people who need you from having all of you?
Once we identify the goals you want to work toward, I prepare a treatment plan tailored to you. I use a variety of evidence-based methods to meet you where you are rather than try to fit your issues into a single therapeutic lens.
One of my specialties is the treatment of emotional injuriespost-traumatic stress using Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR). Many people do not realize the extent to which disturbing events from their past affect them now until they show up as: codependency, anti-social behaviors, depression, anxiety, etc. Using specific protocols and processes that are well-researched, I am able to help people work through the effects of these events in ways that allow them feel better about themselves and live happier, healthier lives.
Codependency Treatment: Do you notice you are easily motived by guilt, saying "yes" when you want to say "no?" Do you resent yourself or the other person later? Do you notice a conflict inside - one part knowing you are in a relationship that isn't good for you and the other part telling yourself you love this person? Are you tired of not feeling like number one with your partner? I use a specific method to treat codependence with very good results.
Another specialty is couples. Do you love your partner but can’t communicate without having the same arguments over and over? Do you find that you avoid opening up to your partner because you don’t think that your partner hears you? Do you feel alone in your relationship or that your partner doesn’t care about you the way you parnter used to? If you answer yes to these questions, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) can help change negative patterns. Partnerships often start with an intense connection but over time can fade. EFT offers a way for you to learn how to communicate in ways that bring you closer together by helping you understand negative patterns of communicating, allowing each of you to express thoughts and fears in safe, respectful ways to help you to feel more bonded and close again.