What's My Approach to Therapy?
You might be here because you're anxious, depressed, or struggling in your relationships. Perhaps you feel stuck, or you keep encountering the same difficulties in different situations. Maybe you've tried therapy before and found it helped to a point, but something was still missing.
Here's something I've noticed working with people for 17 years: you can understand something intellectually - know exactly why you feel or do something - yet still find it difficult to change. Intellectual insight isn't the same as emotional insight. That gap between knowing and changing is often where people feel most frustrated.
In our work together, we'd focus on putting feelings into words. Not just talking about emotions, but actually making sense of them - especially the ones that feel confusing, threatening, or contradictory. We'd pay attention to patterns: how you relate to others, what you avoid, the meanings underneath your struggles. We'd think about how past experiences shape what's happening now.
The therapeutic relationship itself becomes important. What happens between us - the feelings that come up, moments of connection or distance - often illuminates what happens elsewhere in your life. I work to create space where you can talk openly about difficult things without judgment.
I draw on different therapeutic approaches depending on what's most helpful - psychodynamic, cognitive-behavioural, humanistic. Some people come for focused work over several months. Others work with me longer-term to understand deep-seated patterns. My approach is collaborative and down-to-earth. Therapy shouldn't feel mysterious or overly formal.
I have particular experience with shame - an emotion that often hides beneath anxiety, depression, and relationship difficulties. Shame can show up as persistent worry about being defective, as anger turned against yourself or others, or as avoidance and withdrawal. Recognizing shame and understanding where it comes from can shift patterns that have felt unchangeable.
If this resonates, I'd welcome hearing from you. We'd usually start with a brief phone conversation to discuss what you're looking for and whether we might work well together.