My Approach to Helping
I use a mixture of approaches in my work with clients. I am trained in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, also called CBT, which is considered the best treatment for depressive symptoms. CBT helps clients to look at their thoughts, feelings, and actions and helps people take a more realistic look at situations rather than reacting to emotions or jumping to conclusions when something difficult happens. I also use mindfulness-based approaches and help clients learn to be more engaged in their everyday lives and respond to difficulties rather than react. I am also trained in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) which uses a blend of CBT and mindfulness techniques to help clients live a rich and fulfilling value-focused life. Finally, I integrate strategies for self-compassion into our work together to strengthen your resilience and provide a sense of comfort and peace.
I have a warm and compassionate approach to therapy that helps my clients thrive. I believe that everyone is trying to do their best in a difficult world. If you are finding that your best efforts aren’t getting you the life that you want, I can help you refocus and find your groove again!
More Info About My Practice
My practice is named in reference to a story in Buddhism often called The Arrow. It says that difficult experiences in our lives can be as painful as being pierced by an arrow, often seemingly coming out of nowhere. If we are able to stop and care for the wound while accepting the help of others, then the wound can heal and we can move forward. However, often we shoot our own arrow, the second arrow, in reaction to being struck by this first arrow, striking ourselves again. The second arrow symbolizes the thoughts, feelings, reactions, and behaviors about the meaning that we attach to the first arrow ("Why did this happen to me?") and the pain that we feel. While shooting ourselves with this second arrow is very common, it doesn't help to reduce our pain from the first arrow and can actually magnify the pain that we feel and complicate our ability to heal and move forward in our lives. I believe that therapy focuses on these second arrows, and by learning new ways of responding to the painful events that we all experience in our lives, we can return to a state of wellness, peace, and connectedness.
Why Going to Therapy Does Not Mean You are Weak or Flawed
Shooting ourselves with these second arrows is a universal experience. All human beings struggle with living in this difficult world. Learning about your own arrows and how to bring caring attention to yourself and the things that matter most to you in your life can bring peace, resilience, and the strength that you need to handle all the arrows in your life. As the saying goes, "Alone we go fast, but together we go far."