My Approach to helping.

I am an integral psychotherapist with thirty years of experience in private practice in NYC. I currently offer sessions via telehealth, and I am out-of-network insurance reimbursable. My approach is integrative and holistic, addressing mind, body, and spirit. My specialty is combining psychology and spirituality, utilizing Eastern and Western teachings. The emphasis is on compassion, joy, warmth, wisdom, peace, and love. My approach is supportive and positive.

If you're feeling stretched thin between your work, your relationship, or both, and you're exhausted from carrying it alone, you're not imagining how heavy it's become. Maybe you and your partner keep having the same fight without knowing why. Maybe you're successful everywhere except in the parts of your life that matter most. Either way, you're likely here because you're ready for something to actually change, not just to talk about it. I'm Jon Abelack, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) in Connecticut, and I work with couples and individuals dealing with relationship strain, career stress, and burnout. Before becoming a therapist, I spent over 20 years in high-stakes careers, so I understand firsthand what it's like to perform under pressure while your personal life quietly falls apart in the background. I bring that same direct, no-nonsense approach into the room. My work draws on Gestalt therapy and Relational Life Therapy, which means we don't just talk about your problems in the abstract. We pay close attention to what's actually happening between us right now, because that usually tells us more than any story about the past. I'll help you communicate more honestly, break the patterns that keep tripping you up, and set the boundaries you've been avoiding, whether that's with a partner, at work, or with yourself. This isn't therapy that drifts for years without direction. It's active, it's honest, and it's built to get you real, lasting movement toward a relationship, or a life, that actually works. If you're ready to feel grounded again, more connected, and back in control, I'd welcome the chance to talk about how we might work together.

I’m easy to talk to, and I try to get the whole picture without rushing the process. Everyone has a story and things they’re going through; some people are just better at hiding it than others.

I offer a unique psychotherapy experience to improve mental health, bring harmony to your relationships, and increase your overall sense of well-being. I believe we each hold the keys to our own healing and counseling to be a process to help you find them. I am experienced working with adults, kids, teens, families, and couples.

You’re not in crisis, but you’re not free. You overthink, stay vigilant, and hold everything together even when no one’s asking you to. Your anxiety isn’t loud. It’s controlled, contained, and constant: mental loops you can’t shut off, pressure to get it right, difficulty letting go, strain in your closest relationships. I work with high-functioning professionals and couples who are outwardly successful and inwardly exhausted: people who are skeptical of quick fixes and ready for something deeper. We start by slowing down enough to understand what’s really happening. I draw from Gestalt therapy, psychodynamic theory, and 20+ years of experience. My style is grounded, direct, and emotionally attuned. This is not symptom management. It is steady relational work that loosens the grip of anxiety and control so something more alive can emerge. I work with individuals and couples navigating anxiety, grief, and relationships. Starting therapy when you are used to being the strong one can feel like a risk. You wonder if someone will get you, or if it becomes another space where you perform being fine. I offer something different: a place where you feel met, not assessed, and your pace matters. A brief consultation lets us see whether this feels right.

When you walk into therapy, I want you to feel safe, welcomed, and understood exactly as you are. My role is to be there with you: listening deeply, learning your story, and helping you feel less alone. You don’t have to have it all figured out; we’ll navigate it together, at your pace. I combine evidence-based tools like dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) with the depth and insight of interpersonal psychodynamic work. This means we’ll focus on helping you cope with what’s happening right now, and look at patterns, relationships, and experiences that shape how you see yourself and the world. Along the way, you’ll gain skills, emotional control, clarity, and new ways of dealing with life’s challenges. People often tell me I bring warmth, compassion, and a calming presence to our sessions, along with the kind of honesty and gentle encouragement that makes it easier to make changes. My hope is that you leave therapy feeling better in the moment, and also more confident, more connected, and more hopeful about your life.

I’m here to support you through whatever challenges you’re facing—whether it’s healing from trauma, navigating a life transition, or managing feelings of depression and anxiety. I believe that therapy is a powerful tool for growth and healing, providing a safe space where you can explore your thoughts and emotions, gain new perspectives, and develop coping strategies that work for you. Together, we’ll work on building the tools and insights you need to achieve greater mental and emotional well-being. I specialize in a range of areas, including anxiety and depressive disorders, trauma, post-traumatic stress, sexual violence, grief and loss, coping with chronic illnesscancer, life transitions, relationship & family issues, women's and men’s health, infertility, and caregiver distress & burnout.

Have you wondered how past experiences or how you were treated as a child are affecting how you feel now? Perhaps you experience mood swings, anger, depression or anxiety and often feel as if your emotions are out-of-control. Do you sometimes feel agitated or irritable? Have unsatisfying relationships have been a part of your life? Early family dynamics often have a long-term impact, influencing how you view yourself and your place in the world. If you feel hopeless or discouraged please know that It doesn’t have to be like this! We can work together to understand your thoughts, feelings and past experiences. Then, we'll focus on changing patterns that keep you feeling stuck and on developing new ways to cope so that you experience more of what you desire in life. Healing is possible and life can feel more satisfying! Treatment is designed to fit your goals, is trauma-informed, and focused on your healing, growth and wellness. We work with the mind - body connection to heal from past experiences using EMDR, Somatic Experiencing and other therapies. Troubling thoughts and the emotions and behaviors that follow can be modified with CBT and Mindfulness. The goal is for you to feel more stable and confident. Warm, kind, respectful and non-judgmental, I am passionate about helping people better manage their emotions and lives. I fully believe that you have the inherent ability to change! My aim is to help you feel better so that you can be the best version of yourself and live the life you’ve always dreamed of. Let's start making positive changes together - schedule a free consultation today! "What you do today can improve all your tomorrows." Ralph Marston

Whether you are anxious, depressed or going through a difficult time, I can offer you ways to gently explore your emotions with more ease. I am trained in Internal Family Systems an evidenced-based approach that is highly effective in working with symptoms of anxiety, depression and trauma. What is unique about this approach is the way in which it promotes a more self compassionate view of yourself. This awareness often reduces the self criticism and judgement that plague so many of us. I enjoy working with adults of all ages. With additional training in EMDR, I can help you to reprocess traumatic memory, potentially reducing symptoms associated with trauma. Please contact me for a free 15 minute phone consultation If you would to learn more about my approach to therapy and how it could help you. I look forward to the possibility of working together.