Object Relations

I was not far from the shore in the fickle, warm Gulf of Mexico, a place I love. I was swimming, enjoying the sun, feeling deeply at peace. I loved the smell of the water, the feel of the ... Read More

You’ve probably seen videos of big, furious guys going after little guys. It doesn’t look like a fair fight at first, but there can be surprises—and sometimes the little guys win. ... Read More

Lately there’s been an increase in car accidents. Several young children have died, even some babies in strollers. This is true of New York City and of the United States as a whole. The ... Read More

By the time she was 30 years old, “Roberta” was the mother of a beautiful baby boy she was crazy about—but about her husband “Harry,” the baby’s father, not so much; Roberta ... Read More

People get stuck in behavior patterns that might seem to pay off, at least in the short run, except they don’t. Therapy is one way to recognize repetitive behaviors and change them. Problems ... Read More

Thank you for your question. Saying goodbye is painful, but the ability to begin and end a relationship kindly and in full consciousness is a hallmark of acceptance of self and other—of ... Read More

In the months ahead, we’ll introduce you to a variety of therapy professionals who have shared their wisdom and expertise on GoodTherapy.org. A longtime and integral member of the GoodTherapy.org ... Read More

Last month, we talked about violence—bullies, victims, and bystanders. I wrote: “What happens to the bystander? The bystander takes in a portion of this poison too, whether or ... Read More

Here is a story about a married couple, bound together by strong connections… Jim and Eileen have been married for eight years, and they dated for a few years before that. Jim is ... Read More

It’s spring. The soft air gently caresses my skin, the sun wakes me, and when I walk in the park I see tulips and daffodils and smell sweet honeysuckle blossoms. Could it get any better? ... Read More

On mornings when I’m lucky enough to have free time, I go to a yoga class taught by an excellent teacher, named Mark. Many of his students have been studying yoga for years and are pretty ... Read More

When Susan was growing up, she had a series of nightmares that were so familiar she knew when they were coming. She was scared to go to sleep and tried to stay awake to avoid them, but ... Read More