If your relationship with your adult child or children is in trouble, you're not alone. About one in every five families will experience some kind of estrangement within their ranks.

When your adult son or daughter won't talk to you, it can be excruciating. Sometimes only one parent is cut off, while the other ends up in the middle, trying to juggle both relationships without feeling disloyal.

Everyone in the family, including grandchildren, suffers when this kind of estrangement happens.

Is this is all your fault, or is it all your child's fault?

The answer is No. My approach to this painful problem offers compassion to everyone and assigns blame to no one. As long as the focus is on "Who's to blame?", the relationship can't be mended. It's frozen forever in this sad, intolerable state.

While I'm not currently taking on new clients for therapy, I do offer short-term consultation.

Please see my book, "Reconnecting With Your Estranged Adult Child," before making a consultation appointment, as your questions may be answered there.

You may also want to listen to my weekly podcast for parents, called The Reconnection Club Podcast.