My Approach to Helping
At the intersection of relationships, communication and personal growth is where I tend to work with people.
While I work with a variety of issues, I specialize in helping parents reconnect with their estranged adult children.
If your relationship with your adult child or children is in trouble, you're not alone. About one in every five families will experience some kind of estrangement within their ranks.
When your adult son or daughter won't talk to you, it can be excruciating for parents. Sometimes only one parent is cut off, while the other ends up in the middle, trying to juggle both relationships without feeling disloyal.
Everyone in the family, including grandchildren, suffers when this kind of estrangement happens.
Is this is all your fault, or is it all your child's fault?
The answer is No. My approach to this painful problem offers compassion to everyone and assigns blame to no one. As long as the focus is on "Who's to blame?", the relationship can't be mended. It's frozen forever in this sad, intolerable state.
I offer sincere, positive emotional support and practical suggestions for parents who are tired of trying to figure out who's to blame and are ready for personal healing and growth, no matter what.
If you want to reconcile with your child, or if you need to feel whole again even if the worst happens and they never come back, please contact me today for a free initial consultation in Denver.
To learn more about my approach, and for other resources for estranged parents, please visit reconnectionclub.com, my website for parents.
More Info About My Practice
In addition to providing counseling services for parents, I also speak to organizations and groups about family estrangement in particular, and communication in general.
My Therapy Focus
I founded the Reconnection Club website, an online community and information hub for parents of estranged adult children.
The Club's focus is on helping parents gain tools and skills so they can reconnect not only with their children, but with themselves.
Learn more at reconnectionclub.com.
On the Fence About Going to Therapy?
If you're reluctant to try therapy, you are not alone! I'm guessing you might be split right down the middle: You feel like talking to someone about what's bothering you, but at the same time, you're just not sure...
Your decision about therapy is a personal one, and I support you in making the choice that's right for you at this time. You can always change your mind and do it later if you skip it for now.
But maybe you've thought about it many times before. You're tired of hurting so much, so often, and you don't want to put it off anymore.
Many potential therapy clients are deeply concerned about opening an emotional can of worms that they won't be able to control, let alone put back again.
That concern, andor your ambivalence, is a perfectly good starting point for therapy, if you decide to go for it. In therapy, you are in charge. You don't have to talk about anything you don't want to. You decide how much to share, and when. You do therapy; therapy isn't done to you.
I'd like you to accept your ambivalence as not just an annoying obstacle; it's a part of you, speaking to you. And that part needs and deserves to be heard.
Just spending some time exploring and honoring your ambivalence can provide some relief from the tension of painful feelings. You will get to know yourself a little better, and in doing so, move toward accepting yourself for who you really are - ambivalence and all!
Had a Negative Therapy Experience?
I am truly sorry that therapy was disappointing or - I hope this wasn't the case - even hurtful to you. When someone has a bad experience with therapy, to me it's like hearing that they choked on chocolate; it's terrible to think that something so positive has been permanently ruined for someone. I really am sorry to hear that your experience was anything but beneficial.
I was a therapy client long before I was a therapist, and I know how important it is to feel accepted, understood, cared for and productive in therapy. Because I was lucky enough to find a wonderful therapist, I'm a strong believer in the power of therapy. With the right combination of therapist and client, therapy is the most powerful tool for change I know. The trick is to find the right therapist for you. Someone you can form a therapeutic alliance with. Someone you can develop trust with.
My therapist helped me feel understood and accepted. I carry these feelings with me now, even many years later. The changes that happened for me in therapy were so important and life-changing that they inspired me to become a therapist myself. I know that therapy works, because it worked for me. I would love it if you could have a similar experience, and if you're at all interested in trying again, I hope you'll give it a whirl. "With great risk comes great reward."