My Approach to Helping
I am insightful, sensitive and down to earth and do not rely on formulaic approaches. Therapy with me would feel like a deepening conversation. I often hear that I'm easy to talk to.
Our first session(s) would be consultation to make sure I believe I could be of help. Individuals and couples welcome.
More Info About My Practice
I have been seeing clients for 39 years and have taught at New College of California and U.C. Berkeley Extension. In addition to my work with adults and teens, individually and in couples, I provide consultation for practicing clinicians.
Specific Issue(s) I'm Skilled at Helping With
I have a strong sense of how race, culture, ethnicity and class can influence, and shape how we experience ourselves and others. I find that one's own culture is most strongly felt in multicultural relationships where suddenly what we thought was "normal" may be very different from our partner's perspective.
I enjoy helping individuals and couples heal from affairs. An affair does not necessarily mean the end of your marriage. It does mean that there will be intense emotions involved that may feel overwhelming. Even though affairs are not uncommon, they are still frequently traumatic experiences for everyone involved and deserve the utmost in terms of delicate and thoughtful attention. Many couples heal from affairs and in the process form a much deeper and closer relationship than ever before. I also see people individually who have been involved or have discovered that their partner has been involved in an affair.
On the Fence About Going to Therapy?
Many people feel anxious about making that first call. It's natural to wonder if you will find someone who is available and who can really help you. You may have concerns about opening up to a stranger, being judged, or committing your time and money to something so intangible as therapy.
Sometimes there is a fear that therapy will be about being confronted in ways that will leave you feeling worse about yourself than you perhaps already do. In general, I don't see that as particularly helpful. Nor do I think that just offering support is the most helpful approach either. There is a middle way that centers around curiosity and a deepening understanding of how you experience yourself and others and how that has come to be. I find that engagement in this kind of conversation can lead to deep and lasting and positive change.