My Approach to Helping
I help my clients by compassionately listening to I can better understand them. I serve as a collaborative partner to aid my clients in navigating complex feelings, daily struggles, transitions, and crises. I help my clients trust and discover their unique inner wisdom and resources, allowing them to love and accept even those parts that inhibit their ability to live lives of intention, meaning, and happiness.
My work with children and adults is client-centered. I offer unconditional positive regard, and am with you and only you during sessions. Though I might challenge your thoughts or behavior, I treat you as a capable, whole person who wants to make meaningful changes. Change is not easy, but a small shift in thinking or perspective affords powerful opportunities for change. Like throwing a stone into the lake and witnessing its ripples, small changes add up to big differences.
People often seek therapy because they feel stuck, or because they want greater insight and self-understanding. Some want the assistance of a compassionate professional to validate their feelings, achieve clarity, and get help. Some feel out of balance, producing feelings of anxiety, longing, and loneliness. I collaborate with my clients to resolve and understand their challenges, offering them rejuvenation and commitment.
Education plays a key role in therapy, since knowing what's going on with you is important! I may make recommendations for self-education, and hope you are open to new knowledge.
In my work with couples, I practice EFT(Emotionally Focused Therapy) which is based on Attachment Theory, that essentially we are "wired for safe and secure connection." In therapy, partners experience their "stuck" places and the negative cycle of communication and engagement. They learn to reconnect emotionally at a deeper level and with restoration of a safe and secure bond. From this point, everything opens up and issues can be discussed without distress and with resolution.
Put simply, therapy is an intentional process of connection. You'll explore your intentions, as well as what you can do to support them and bring them to fruition. Happiness is closely tied to being who you are, owning your looks, your experiences, your family, your talents�and also owning what you don't have. This is a lifelong journey, and leading an engaged, challenging life can be scary!
I advocate mindfulness, as well as acceptance and commitment-based approaches, including cognitive-behavioral therapy. I like to focus on the here and now. I am keenly aware of the role self-awareness and self-compassion play in the process, so I treat you with a spirit of non-judgment. In so doing, I hope to empower you to begin therapy with an open awareness of your body, mind, and spirit. I draw much from existentialism and the process of making meaning in life.