Lori Pearring,Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Certified Primal Questions Coach

Lori Pearring,Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Certified Primal Questions Coach

Telehealth Available
Professions: Life Coach, Marriage & Family Therapist, Pastoral Counselor
License Status: I'm a licensed professional.
Primary Credential: Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist - 47698
Billing and Insurance:

I don't currently accept insurance, but I can provide documentation if clients wish to submit to an insurance company for "out of network" benefit coverage

Free Initial Phone Consultation
Weekend Availability


8841 Williamson Dr,
Elk Grove, California 95624

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My Approach to Helping

There was a 2-3 year time period (almost 10 years ago) where I seriously thought my husband was trying to hurt me, or at least didn't love me! We had already been married, raised 4 children and even been in ministry for over 3 decades! Yet we didn't understand ourselves or each other well. My husband was going through some horrendous things as a pastor, and even though I wanted to support him, I wasn't helping! I didn't understand why my reaction was so strong to him and he didn't understand why his reaction was so strong to me! Not a good situation for either of us. Truth be told, we both saw each other's reactivity a lot more than we saw our own!

It scared me when my husband got so angry at his situation. I'd seen rage growing up and I was trying to convince him it wasn't all THAT bad! I didn't mean to, but I was invalidating his deep feelings of betrayal and anger. This was not a time to "Pump Sunshine!" He saw me turn from supportive wife to "aligning with his enemies". I didn't mean to, but that's what I did!

I saw him as intentionally shooting holes in the bottom of our sinking boat, and I was already bailing water as fast as I could.

Thank God I finally realized (it felt like I was giving up!) that I was NOT HELPING! I chose to be less positive and gave myself permission to just reflect back to him how terrible his situation was. I initially thought this would make things even worse!!!, but found that the more negative my reflection was, the more his was less negative. (It was a very tough situation!) This was what we needed!

Like on a teeter totter, the more I tried to be positive the more negative he got. When I could move closer to the middle, he could also be less extreme and we could both still feel heard. We were both less reactive!

What I know now is that my childhood need to feel safe, was being answered NO by his rage and I didn't know what to do with my fear! His highest emotional need, left over from his childhood, was triggered when I overlooked and minimized his dire situation. We were both unknowingly answering each other's highest emotional need with a HECK NO!

We react to others who regularly push our buttons and forget to find out WHY those buttons are even there! I want to help you understand why you react and help put you back in the driver's seat of your life.

Let's find your highest emotional need and help you take back your life! Let's identify the scramble you fall into to get your needs met, as well as your super-power, your relational gift you offer to the world.

I naturally develop potential in others and get jazzed over incremental steps toward hope and healing. I can help you get unstuck!

The world needs who you were meant to be!

More Info About My Practice

Click here:
to take a free quiz and request a free 30 minute Discovery Call to find out what your highest emotional need is!
When we understand what is driving us we're more in control, become less reactive and get more traction in life.

Some of my clients say we do "Therapy Accelerated"!

Specific Issue(s) I'm Skilled at Helping With

I love working with couples to strengthen their relationship. I guide parents as they regain control of their homes and invite their teenagers to become independent, and launch them well. I invite people to live more intentional lives, understanding their personal and interpersonal strengths. I love helping people grow in emotional intelligence. In many ways, my work is my play =).

My Role as a Therapist

As you see yourself more clearly, you'll be better able to identify your options. As you clarify your values, your behavior choices will get easier and you'll find yourself where you ultimately want to go!

I use both coaching and therapy tools with my clients. I have a Marriage and Family Therapy license in California and a Coaching Certification which isn't location specific. Some clients find me while looking for therapy, some find me while looking for a coach. I tune into what your desired outcome is so we can collaborate to get you there! I very specifically pick and choose tools and approaches that serve each individual client best.

Most of my

Clients meet with me either weekly, every other week, once a month, or for a quarterly tune up. , your life will be more aligned and run more smoothly!

My Therapy Focus

Click here to take my free 7 Primal Question quiz to better understand your highest emotional needs!


How My Own Struggles Made Me a Better Therapist

My two highest emotional needs are to feel wanted and to feel like I'm good enough. As I child, these were imprinted on my life, even as my parents did their best! I wish it wasn't so, but honestly I can still get triggered in these two areas if I'm not in a healthy place. For me, this can look like me trying to please others (and being codependent) so that they'll like me. Or I can become very self-conscious and hyper-vigilent, trying to prove that I'm good enough.
It's so freeing to know I'm valued and good enough! These actually become my relational super powers! I naturally honor and value others!
As I remember God's truth about my life, I can focus on caring for you vs trying to impress you! That's a win-win!
I'd love to be able to invite you to find this freedom

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Ages I Work With

  • Adults
  • Elders


  • English

Groups I Work With

    Leaders, Professionals, Entrepreneurs, Pastors and Ministry Staff, Couples, Parents who want to Launch their Children Well, Values-Based Clients, Life-Transitions, Home-Schoolers, Church Hurt, those with high integrity.

Industries & Communities Served

  • Education
  • First Responder/Medical Professionals
  • Military/Law Enforcement
  • Self-Employed and Freelance Professionals

Client Concerns I Treat

  • Adjusting to Change / Life Transitions
  • Anger
  • Anxiety
  • Attachment Issues
  • Communication Problems
  • Control Issues
  • Depression
  • Divorce / Divorce Adjustment
  • Grief, Loss, and Bereavement
  • Isolation
  • Life Purpose / Meaning / Inner-Guidance
  • Perfectionism
  • Pre-Marital Counseling
  • Relationships and Marriage
  • Self-Doubt
  • Stress

Types of Therapy

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