My Approach to Helping
Sometimes we don't know where to begin to lessen our emotional pain. I am here to work with you to understand your story and struggles so that I can learn how best to support you. Whether you may be experiencing the deep pain of losing a loved one or are feeling sad or down without knowing why, your pain is valid and deserves to be heard. Or you may feel confused about your sexuality or have difficulty calming your mind. You have come this far, which means you are strong and a survivor (even though you may not feel strong). Together we can work on understanding your emotional pain to create the life that you want and deserve.
When working together, you will learn tools on how to cope with overwhelming thoughts and emotions, how to work through difficult relationship situations, and how to be more at peace with yourself. My goal is to provide a space for you to voice your feelings and worries to start feeling better.
Or do you have a child who seems troubled? As a parent, you are not alone. I work with children and teens who have overwhelming emotions, feel different than others, or feel anxious and down without knowing why. I am here to work with you and your child on how to best support your child. I will help your child learn how to cope with difficult social and school situations and give them tools needed for their own unique and specific challenges. I am also here to support you as a parent. We will discuss has tow to manage specific behavioral problems and how your child can thrive socially and academically. I will also collaborate with teachers and schools to make sure your child has the appropriate care and support that is needed.
I would love to talk with you more about what I offer and what you are looking for. I am passionate about this psychotherapy work and am hopeful that my compassion, knowledge, and extensive training will create the environment that is needed for your healing, or for your child's healing.
Please visit my website for additional information on the services I provide. Also, feel free to contact me for a free phone consultation; I would love to talk with you more about what I offer and to talk about what you are looking for.
More Info About My Practice
One of my specializations is working with trauma. Trauma comes in many forms including experiencing a loss or experiencing difficulties in a relationship. You may have felt like you shut down or freeze in situations, or overwhelmed by emotions that seem to just come out of nowhere. Or you may have flashbacks from a specific traumatic event. Or you may find it difficult to be in social situations and engage with others. All of these responses are normal reactions. It can feel like such a lonely and isolating experience, especially if we feel like others don't understand what we're experiencing. Feeling misunderstood can make us feel even worse. Or we can feel like something is wrong with us, and that we should be able to be strong and pull ourselves from out of the emotions or frozen states. It is not because you are weak. Your emotions want to be heard and understood so that they can tell their story and start the healing process. You deserve to feel like you can engage with others in a way that not only allows you to feel like you belong, but in a way that makes you feel like you're alive and comfortable with just being yourself. We will work together to uncover what is blocking you from accessing the parts of you that are whole and safe to not just survive, but thrive.
On the Fence About Going to Therapy?
It can be scary to think about going to therapy at first, and the stigma associated with going to therapy in this culture (and in many cultures) does not help. Also, we can think that we can figure things out on our own or that we should be strong enough to handle our struggles. However, I believe it is a strength to reach out for help and to say what we need. In reality, we all need support and help at some point in our lives no matter what we are going through - big or small. We are social beings and it is crucial to have someone we can talk with who understands what we are going through in order to get through whatever life is giving us. In addition to the emotional support, therapists can help with seeing patterns and family dynamics that one who isn't trained may not see. Thus, therapy is all about gaining the emotional support needed while also understanding why we may be having certain struggles. Making the unconscious conscious is the goal of therapy; this means there are many things we are not aware of and the more we can uncover the roles we play in certain dynamics and why we are in so much emotional pain, the less stuck we are and the more freedom and choices we may have in our lives to build the life that we want and deserve.
If you are on the fence about going to therapy, it doesn't hurt to give it a try to see if it works for you and to find out if it is helpful. It is important to find a therapist who is the right fit as well; it makes all the difference to talk with someone you feel comfortable with and with whom you have a trusting relationship; it is then that healing is more likely to happen. I would love to speak with you to see if we are a good fit.
What Makes up a Problem?
A problem is anything that may be bothering you, big or small. Even if something seems small, there may be bigger aspects to it that we may not realize. I believe that everything is connected. Even if you talk about something that seems small, this smaller issue may point us to some deeper pain that needs to be heard. I believe that any amount of emotional pain is a cry to be heard, and the unconscious is wanting us to understand why this particular issue is bothering you. If you are in a tremendous amount of emotional pain that seems overwhelming or too much, it is even more important for this pain to be heard and understood. It will get better and feel less overwhelming the more it is talked about, heard, and understood. I want to hear what your pain has to say; it deserves to tell its story.