Jodie Bbenabe, PsyD, Licensed Psychologist
Boulder, Colorado
VerifiedTelehealth Available
My Approach to Therapy
Youve been holding your breath for a long time. The triggering texts, unpredictable co-parenting, accusations, sudden shifts in toneeach one hits your nervous system like a shock. Youre exhausted from trying to function while managing someone elses chaos, and you cant remember the last time you felt steady, safe, or like yourself. Even around supportive people, you still feel alone in what youre carrying.
I help people overwhelmed by high-conflict divorce, narcissistic abuse, infidelity trauma, and chronic anxiety feel grounded and supported again. Many of my clients also struggle with stress-related eating concernsrestricting, overeating, bingeing, or losing appetitebecause survival mode affects both body and mind. You wont need to educate me about these patterns; I understand the psychological whiplash and how these experiences erode your sense of self.
My style is warm, direct, and steady. Together, we slow things down so your body can come out of constant alert mode. We make sense of emotional patterns, interrupt anxiety loops, and build practical tools that help you feel calmer, clearer, and more in control. I use evidence-based, trauma-informed approachesincluding cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), interpersonal work, and somatic strategiestailored to your nervous system, your history, and your strengths.
You deserve a life that isnt ruled by fear, manipulation, or chronic self-doubt. You deserve relationships where you dont have to shrink, explain, or walk on eggshells. Healing is possible, even if it feels far away right now. When youre ready to feel stronger, steadier, and more like yourself again, I offer a free 20-minute consultation to help you explore your next steps.
My Practice & Services
I work with people navigating high-conflict relationships, chronic anxiety, trauma, stress-related eating concerns, and the emotional toll of unpredictable communication. Sessions are collaborative, paced to your nervous system, and grounded in practical strategies that help you feel safer, more regulated, and more empowered in daily life.
I also offer a high-conflict divorce support group for people who feel isolated in the chaos of post-separation stress. Its a steady place to connect with others who understand unpredictable co-parenting, manipulation, and the emotional strain of dealing with a difficult ex. The group focuses on grounding practices, nervous-system stabilization, boundary clarity, and practical coping tools. Meetings are held in Boulder and online across Colorado.
I provide inclusive, affirming care and welcome clients of all backgrounds and identities. Im committed to ongoing training in culturally responsive, trauma-informed approaches. Both virtual and in-person sessions are available to support flexibility, privacy, and accessibility.
Specific Issue(s) I'm Skilled at Helping With
I specialize in helping people overwhelmed by high-conflict divorce, narcissistic abuse, post-separation chaos, infidelity trauma, chronic anxiety, and stress-related eating issues. I also support clients dealing with unpredictable communication, co-parenting tension, emotional manipulation, trauma-bonding dynamics, and the nervous-system overload that comes from long-term instability.
On the Fence About Going to Therapy?
If you?ve been holding everything together on your own for too long, reaching out can feel vulnerable. Therapy doesn?t mean you?re weak?it means you?re ready for things to stop feeling so hard. You don?t need the ?right words,? a perfect timeline, or a polished story. If you?re burned out by conflict, exhausted from second-guessing yourself, or stuck in survival mode, therapy can help you feel steadier and more in control again.
Had a Negative Therapy Experience?
Many of my clients come to me after feeling dismissed, rushed, or misunderstood by previous therapists. If you?ve ever been told to ?just set boundaries,? ?co-parent better,? or ?stop overreacting,? you know how invalidating that feels. High-conflict dynamics and trauma responses require deeper understanding. In our work, you won?t have to explain why certain interactions send you into panic?I get it. You?ll be met with warmth, clarity, and practical support.
How My Own Struggles Made Me a Better Therapist
I became a psychologist after navigating my own seasons of overwhelm, chronic stress, and emotional instability. I know what it feels like when your nervous system is constantly on alert, when you second-guess yourself, or when you?re holding everything together on the outside while unraveling inside.
Doing my own work taught me what clients truly need: a therapist who is steady, clear, warm, and unafraid of the hard conversations. Someone who understands how shame, anxiety, and self-doubt can take over?and how empowering it feels when you start to get your life back.
My experiences help me sit with clients in their hardest moments without judgment or confusion. I can recognize patterns of manipulation, volatility, and trauma responses quickly because I understand what healing requires. This allows me to be present, compassionate, and clear in a way that helps people feel understood?not analyzed.
What I Say to People Concerned about the Therapy Process
It?s normal to worry about opening up, especially after dealing with high-conflict dynamics or feeling judged in past relationships. You set the pace. You don?t need to share everything at once or be perfectly put together. We?ll focus on what feels most urgent?your anxiety, triggers, co-parenting stress, or emotional exhaustion?and build clarity and stability from there. Therapy is a place for support, not performance.
Importance of the Client-Therapist Alliance
Trust and safety matter. You?ve been through enough confusion and emotional instability?you don?t need more of that in therapy. I show up with warmth, directness, and steadiness so you always know where you stand. Our work becomes a space where you can think clearly, exhale, and rebuild the parts of yourself that conflict and chaos tried to take from you.
Expertise & Specialties
Age Groups I Work With
TeensAdults
Groups I Work With
I work with individual adults, teens, and couples. I specialize in treating anxiety and phobias, eating issues, and relational trauma, particularly from narcissistic abuse in high-conflict divorce, post-separation abuse, infidelity, parallel parenting problems, and court trauma.
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Concerns & Challenges Addressed
Abuse / Abuse Survivor IssuesAcademic ConcernsAdjusting to Change / Life TransitionsAgoraphobiaAnxietyBody ImageCareer Issues Caregiver Issues / Stress
Therapeutic Approaches & Evidence-Based Methods
Industries & Communities
Entertainment IndustryFirst Responder/Medical ProfessionalsMilitary/Law EnforcementEducationSelf-Employed and Freelance ProfessionalsLGBTQ+BIPOC
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