My Approach to Therapy
I love helping people discover new ways to be with the feelings that are running the show — anxiety, anger, overwhelm, stress, and the deeper pain that often sits underneath them.
Anxiety, anger, and overwhelm are not problems to be fixed. They are signals — natural responses to life's challenges that are telling you something important. Where people get into trouble is not in having these feelings, but in what they do with them. Yelling at the people you love. Losing patience at work. Feeling controlled by stress no matter how hard you try to manage it. Shutting down when things get hard. These are patterns — and patterns can change.
My work focuses on teaching people how to be with all of their feelings in healthy, skillful ways. Through experiential, hands-on learning, I help clients separate feelings from thoughts and actions — so that instead of reacting, you can choose. Instead of being driven by old patterns, you can respond with intention.
The tools I use are practical and real. We work with mindfulness, Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), self-talk, and somatic awareness to help you honor, manage, and calm big feelings in the moment — not just in the therapy room, but in your daily life. We also explore the patterns that keep showing up: in relationships, in how you respond to stress, in the stories you tell yourself about who you are and what you deserve.
If you are struggling to let go or move forward, losing your patience more than you want to, feeling constantly stressed or overwhelmed, or finding that the same painful dynamics keep showing up in your relationships — this work is for you.
I also use Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) to help process underlying trauma that often drives anxiety, emotional dysregulation, and addictive patterns. Trauma and our everyday struggles are more connected than most people realize. EMDR helps address the root, not just the behavior.
My approach is strength-based and collaborative. That means we build on what you already have — your history, your values, your culture, your resilience — rather than focusing only on what's broken. You bring more to this work than you know.
We also explore boundaries, healthy self-care, and routines that support your new skill development and lead to a more fulfilling life — one where you feel confident you can rebound from life's ups and downs.
Psychotherapy with me is about trust, exploration, education, and real change. I believe that through this work, people can grow, heal, and live full, complex, deeply human lives.
If you are ready to make a change and build new skills and routines for life, reach out to schedule a free 20-minute consultation today.
What I Love about Being a Psychotherapist
I believe in hope, resilience, and change ? and I have seen all three, over and over again, for more than 20 years.
I feel genuinely privileged to be part of people's journeys toward healing, connection, love, and recovery. Something new becomes possible when a client and I build a real therapeutic connection. I have watched people break patterns they carried for decades. I have seen people find their voice, repair their relationships, grieve fully, and step into lives they didn't think were available to them.
That never gets old. Every person who walks through my door is unique, and so is the work we do together.
I also bring my own personal and longstanding contemplative practice to this work ? informed by Zen Buddhism and Jewish wisdom traditions. I am equally at home with people who have a rich spiritual life, people who have left a tradition they no longer believe in, people who have never had one, and people in recovery who are finding their own relationship to meaning and something larger than themselves. Existential and spiritual questions are not separate from therapy ? for many people, they are at the heart of it.
Important Factors for Choosing a Therapist
Choosing a therapist is one of the most important decisions you can make ? and fit matters more than credentials alone.
I specialize in deep listening, honest connection, and practical skill building. My style is warm and direct. I am not here to just listen ? I will be actively engaged with you, offering honest feedback, real tools, and the kind of caring challenge that actually moves things forward. We may work through some heavy things, but there will be moments of humor and real human connection along the way.
Here is what I bring to the work:
More than 20 years of experience in private practice and community mental health in San Francisco and the Bay Area
EMDR Level 2 certification for trauma processing
EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) for in-the-moment emotional regulation
Gottman-informed and ImagoHarville Hendrix-informed couples work
Certified Domestic Violence Treatment Provider ? San Mateo and San Francisco County
Certified Sexual Assault Counselor ? Rape Trauma Services
Deep, long-term clinical experience working with LGB and queer clients
A Zen Buddhist and Jewish contemplative background that informs my approach to meaning, grief, mortality, and spiritual exploration