Darlene Lancer,LMFT, MA, JD

Darlene Lancer,LMFT, MA, JD

Telehealth Available
Professions: Marriage & Family Therapist, Life Coach
License Status: I'm a licensed professional.
Primary Credential: LMFT
Secondary Credential: Attorney - 49946
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San Vicente Blvd
Santa Monica, California 90402

My Approach to Helping

Relationships can be a source of love, or can cause pain, longing, and consume your time and attention. You may be unsure about staying, have repeated conflicts, or feel you're not getting the love or respect you want. You may not know the cause of your problem, anxiety, or depression, or wonder where your passion went. Perhaps you don't have the focus or motivation to accomplish your goals or you feel like you're not living the life you were meant to live.

For 30 years, individuals and couples have come to me with all sorts of problems, particularly around issues of codependency, intimacy, self-esteem, and abuse. I draw on extensive personal experience and advanced clinical training in using powerful healing techniques. Clients quickly see changes and develop concrete tools to manage emotions, conflict, and boundaries. They have less anxiety and take more risks, see their self-esteem grow, and they work toward fulfilling their goals. Couples improve communication, intimacy, and ability to cooperate. As a relationship and self-esteem expert, I wrote "Codependency for Dummies" and "Conquering Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Free Your True Self."

My approach is intuitive and personal, unique to each individual or couple. I aim to improve self-awareness, self-esteem, boundaries, communication skills, and provide tools for change. Whatever the problem, you don't have to solve it alone.

Therapy takes courage, but it validates you and your desire and ability to change. You will experience relief when you understand what's going on and take steps to enrich your life, relationships, and achieve your goals.

More Info About My Practice

To help improve self-esteem and assertiveness, I wrote ebooks: "10 Steps to Self-Esteem" and "How to Speak Your Mind: Become Assertive and Set Limits" with companion webinars.
Many of my clients have abusive loved ones. For dealing with anyone highly defensive, I wrote "Dealing with a Narcissist: How to Raise Self-Esteem and Set Boundaries with Difficult People."
For those in 12-Step programs, I wrote "Spiritual Transformation in the Twelve Steps" for a Jungian, spiritual approach to the 12 Steps with thought-provoking exercises.

Call for an appointment. Visit my website, www.WhatIsCodependency.com, for informative blogs, links to talks, and FREE "14 Tips for Letting Go."
Check out my Youtube videos on codependency, narcissism, and self-esteem

Specific Issue(s) I'm Skilled at Helping With

Codependency, Relationships, and Self-Esteem

Check out my Youtube videos.

Ages I Work With

  • Adults
  • Elders


  • English

Client Concerns I Treat

  • Abuse / Abuse Survivor Issues
  • Anger
  • Anxiety
  • Codependency / Dependency
  • Depression
  • Divorce / Divorce Adjustment
  • Domestic Violence
  • Drug and Alcohol Addiction
  • Eating and Food Issues
  • Forgiveness
  • Grief, Loss, and Bereavement
  • LGBT (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender) Issues
  • Mood Swings / Mood Disturbance
  • Parenting
  • Posttraumatic Stress / Trauma
  • Pre-Marital Counseling
  • Relationships and Marriage
  • Self-Esteem
  • Self-Love
  • Sexual Assault / Abuse
  • Sexuality / Sex Therapy
  • Shame
  • Spirituality
  • Stress
  • Women's Issues
  • Workplace Issues

Types of Therapy

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