Couples Therapy Challenges Galore: Lies, Deception, Infidelity, and Jealousy

Presented by Ellyn Bader, PhD on 03-06-2015 at 9 a.m. Pacific to 11 a.m. Pacific (2 p.m. Eastern)

Lies, deception, infidelity, and jealousy are complex issues that are often the stated presenting problems for couples seeking therapy. However, speaking the truth in intimate relationships is infrequently about morality. It is about differentiation or the avoidance of it. In avoiding the difficult work of differentiation, many couples lie to one another and to themselves, and they fail to build the emotional muscle critical for a strong, intimate, and authentic connection.

This web conference will review primary types of lies, reasons couples lie, and lie-inviting behavior in intimate partnerships. We will identify and discuss why differentiation matters and address different types of confrontation. You'll learn clinical tools that will help you feel calm and allow you to assist the couple in question to see a different perspective.

This presentation is based on material from the books In Quest of the Mythical Mate: A Developmental Approach to Couples Therapy and Tell Me No Lies: How to Face the Truth and Build a Loving Marriage by Dr. Ellyn Bader and Dr. Peter T. Pearson.

This web conference is intermediate instructional level and designed to help clinicians:

  1. Describe 5 main reasons lovers lie;
  2. Discover 4 major types of lies;
  3. Illustrate common patterns of lie-inviting behavior;
  4. Explain differentiation and describe why it matters;
  5. Identify 6 different types of confrontation.

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Event Reviews from Members

"Ellyn is an excellent presenter. Clear....Concise... good use of stories and examples. Very knowledgeable." - Norma Stevens, LCPC

"It was helpful to have a more in-depth understanding of the reasons people lie and how different types of lies affect a couple, especially a couple struggling with infidelity. Looking at different ways of confronting a couple in session who are dealing with lies and infidelity was also useful." - Ellen Schrier, MS, LPC

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Meet the Presenter

Ellyn Bader, PhD

Ellyn Bader, PhD

Dr. Ellyn Bader, psychologist, is the director and founder of The Couples Institute Training. She is also a speaker, workshop leader, therapist, and author who is committed to helping couples cultivate strong, extraordinary relationships, and to educating therapists in techniques for providing exceptional, high-quality couples therapy. For 28 years, she has shared her expertise with therapists across the country, as well as in South America, Europe, Australia, and Asia.

Dr. Bader is frequently sought after as a speaker for national and international conventions. She co-authored two books with her husband, Dr. Peter Pearson: In Quest of the Mythical Mate: A Developmental Approach to Diagnosis and Treatment in Couples Therapy and Tell Me No Lies: How to Face the Truth and Build a Loving Marriage. Together, they have been on several television shows including CBS Early Morning News and the Today show. The California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists awarded Dr. Bader the Clark Vincent Award for an outstanding literary contribution to the field of couples therapy.

For more information on Dr. Bader and her work, please visit her website here: http://www.couplesinstitute.com

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  • Logo This course has been approved by GoodTherapy.org, as a NAADAC Approved Education Provider, for educational credits. NAADAC Provider #135463. GoodTherapy.org is responsible for all aspects of their programming.
  • GoodTherapy.org, LLC is recognized by the New York State Education Department's State Board for Social Work as an approved provider of continuing education for licensed social workers #SW-0395.
  • GoodTherapy.org, LLC is recognized by the New York State Education Department's State Board for Mental Health Practitioners as an approved provider of continuing education for licensed marriage and family therapists #MFT-0022 and for licensed mental health counselors #MHC-0031.

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