Intimate Partner Violence: Creative Ways To Reach Difficult and Defensive Men

Presented by David B. Wexler, PhD on 05-29-2020 at 9 a.m. Pacific (noon Eastern) to 11 a.m. Pacific (2 p.m. Eastern)

Decades of research and clinical experience with men who have committed acts of intimate partner violence has taught us that one size does not fit all. While some of the most dangerous abusive men are deeply character-disordered and barely amenable to change, the majority are not. The men we treat are highly sensitized--and clearly overreactive--to shame and feelings of incompetence. If therapists cannot de-shame the therapeutic experience, these men will not show up in the first place for treatment, they will not stay in therapy if they do agree to come, or they will not be as real as they need to be to benefit from the experience.

In this 2-hour continuing education web conference, Dr. David Wexler will bust the myth that you can only change violent men by shaming them. Clinicians will learn to reach difficult and abusive men more effectively by respecting the power of male shame and using “guy talk” that speaks directly to men. Strategies that have now been tested over decades of treatment—including pacing and leading, self-disclosure, motivational interviewing, and solution focused therapy—are extremely effective in disarming male shame and its behavioral cousins: denial, minimization, defensiveness, and avoidance. The ultimate goal—reducing the likelihood of abusive behavior in the future—is best served by forming the therapeutic alliances that these interventions enhance.

This introductory instructional level web conference is designed to help clinicians:

  1. Generate essential distinctions about abuser motivations such as power and control, anxious attachment, and narcissistic injury.
  2. Learn the power of steering away from a shame-based perspective to a respectful perspective in treating difficult and defensive men.
  3. Develop specific skills in forming valuable a therapeutic alliance with male abusers, such as pacing and leading, motivational interviewing, and self-disclosure.
  4. Utilize intervention skills based on solution-focused therapy to generate meaningful behavioral change in abusers.
  5. Expand knowledge about dynamics of relationships in conflict and strategies for intervention.

Statement of program material's accuracy, utility, and risks: All program material is based on decades of research in the field of domestic violence treatment. The skills are very applicable not only to male domestic violence treatment, but to treatment of defensive and difficult men in multiple settings. The interventions presented are only of risk in that they may not be effective will all abusive men.

Declaration of conflicts of interest and commercial support: None.

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Meet the Presenter

David B. Wexler, PhD

David B. Wexler, PhD

David B. Wexler, PhD is a clinical psychologist in San Diego who specializes in the treatment of relationships in conflict. Dr. Wexler is the executive director of the non-profit Relationship Training Institute, which provides education and treatment internationally for relationship development as well as the prevention and treatment of relationship violence. He has served twice as the Clinical and Administrative Supervisor for the NIMH-sponsored research study of domestic violence in the Navy.

Dr. Wexler has authored the internationally-recognized domestic violence treatment manual: the newly revised and updated The STOP Program—Third Edition. He has also trained thousands of community professionals, military personnel, and law enforcement officials through extensive seminars on The STOP Program model. Dr. Wexler’s other publications include:

Dr. Wexler is also the former Chairman of the Treatment & Intervention Committee of the San Diego Domestic Violence Council and has been awarded the Distinguished Service Award for Treatment by this Council. The California Psychological Association has also designated him as a Master Lecturer and he received CPA’s Distinguished Contribution to Psychology award. Dr. Wexler recently received the prestigious award of Practitioner of the Year from the Society for the Psychological Study of Men and Masculinity, a division of the American Psychological Association. 

Dr. Wexler has been featured on Dr. Phil and the TODAY show, as well as in the Wall St. Journal, Washington Post, “O” magazine, Cosmopolitan, Redbook, and Men’s Health. Psychotherapy Networker Magazine featured his article about men in therapy in their May/June 2010 issue.

For more information about Dr. Wexler and his work, please visit www.rtiprojects.org.

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Continuing Education Provider Approvals

  • aceGoodTherapy.org is Approved by the American Psychological Association to sponsor continuing education for psychologists. GoodTherapy.org maintains responsibility for this program and its content. GoodTherapy.org received APA approval in May 2011. Events after 2011 may meet APA requirements for Continuing Education credits.
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  • Logo This course has been approved by GoodTherapy.org, as a NAADAC Approved Education Provider, for educational credits. NAADAC Provider #135463. GoodTherapy.org is responsible for all aspects of their programming.
  • aceGoodTherapy.org, provider #1352, is approved to offer social work continuing education by the Association of Social Work Boards (ASWB) Approved Continuing Education (ACE) program. Organizations, not individual courses, are approved as ACE providers. State and provincial regulatory boards have the final authority to determine whether an individual course may be accepted for continuing education credit. GoodTherapy.org maintains responsibility for this course. ACE provider approval period: 03/30/2019 - 03/30/2022. Social workers completing this course receive 2 continuing education credits.
  • GoodTherapy.org, LLC is recognized by the New York State Education Department's State Board for Social Work as an approved provider of continuing education for licensed social workers #SW-0395.
  • GoodTherapy.org, LLC is recognized by the New York State Education Department's State Board for Mental Health Practitioners as an approved provider of continuing education for licensed marriage and family therapists #MFT-0022 and for licensed mental health counselors #MHC-0031.
  • Person Centered Tech, LLC is approved by the American Psychological Association to sponsor continuing education for psychologists. Person Centered Tech, LLC maintains responsibility for this program and its content.

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