Resolving Conflict and Repairing Relationships

Presented by Cedar Barstow, MEd, CHT on 12-06-2013 at 9 a.m. Pacific to 11 a.m. Pacific (2 p.m. Eastern)

Handling conflicts, misunderstandings, and relationship difficulties is often challenging, stressful, and painful. Relationship repair can be even more frustrating and messy in relationships where power differences come into play, as may be the case between person in therapy and therapist, teacher and student, or boss and employee. Is there anyone who doesn't have at least one story about a boss or an employee who was impossible or hurtful?

In this conference, we will focus on a number of issues related to resolving conflict, including identifying functional and dysfunctional strategies, looking at the relationship between conflict and trauma, understanding how conflict escalates and how to intervene, learning how to track for signs of conflict early on, and using a five-step process for resolving and repairing from both the "down-power" role and the "up-power" role. Resolving conflict and repairing relationships is a high art and skill well worth learning.

Please be prepared to include some self-study practices that you will be invited to share with others in the class. As an experiential educator, I have a strong conviction that for the study of this topic (and others), personal self-study experience and practical processes produce the most usable learnings.

This web conference is intermediate instructional level and designed to help clinicians:

  1. Prepare to use the five-step method for resolving and repairing relationship difficulties;
  2. List three conflict-avoiding habits and three conflict-managing habits;
  3. Recognize the relationship between conflict and trauma and the three nervous systems;
  4. Identify six signals or indicators of relationship difficulties;
  5. Describe the concept of down-power leadership.

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Event Reviews from Members

The five-step method was so clear and concise and user-friendly. - Robyn D'Angelo, LMFT

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[M]y definition of power is the ability to have an effect or to have influence. Of course, that’s what we all need and want—the ability to have an effect and to have an influence . . . . Power is often experienced as something scary or to be avoided or to be overused, but the ‘right use of power’ is any use of power that’s used for the common good and for healing and for moving relationships forward. - Cedar Barstow, MEd, CHT

[There are] five things that most people need in order to feel resolved about problems, or clear enough to let go of a relationship consciously rather than in anger. And this isn’t a prescription, but it’s a set of attitudes and suggestions. And clients may need one, or they may need all, or three, or two of them, and so you don’t need to make any conflict bigger than it is. [T]he first is acknowledgment . . . . [T]he second thing they want is understanding . . . . And then the third is regret . . . . [T]he fourth is learning. . . . And the fifth thing they want is repair. - Cedar Barstow, MEd, CHT

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Cedar Barstow, MEd, CHT

Cedar Barstow, MEd, CHT

Cedar Barstow, MEd, CHT, is the Founder and Executive Director of the Right Use of Power Institute whose mission is to help people own and use their personal and professional power with strength, heart, and skill. Right Use of Power is an ethics program that Cedar originally developed for people in the helping professions. She and her husband, Reynold Ruslan Feldman, have just published a new book that brings right use of power ideas to all people interested in power: Living in the Power Zone: How Right Uses of Power Can Transform Your Relationships. Cedar also authored Right Use of Power: The Heart of Ethics—A Resource for the Helping Professional. Her books and a calendar for her programs are available from her website.

Cedar is the Ethics Topic Expert for and has published many articles on's blog. She serves as a consultant in ethics, as a teacher of right use of power programs throughout the world, and as a Hakomi Psychotherapy trainer. Cedar lives in Boulder, Colorado.

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