Humiliation

Man hidden behind a paper bagHumiliation is an unpleasant emotion brought about by feeling that one’s social status or public image has decreased. It is the opposite of pride. People experiencing humiliation may have diminished feelings of self-worth.

What is Humiliation?

Humiliation is related to embarrassment, but is typically longer-lasting and more painful. A person might feel embarrassment after misspeaking or performing poorly on a test, while humiliation tends to go alongside more significant public failures. Humiliation also sometimes occurs with trauma, particularly physical violations. Rape and assault victims, for example, often report feeling humiliated.

Humiliation is sometimes characterized as a desire to hide or escape. It is closely related to shame. While guilt is generally associated with feelings of doing something wrong, shame is correlated with feeling like a bad person. A guilty person might say, “I made a bad decision,” while a shameful person might say, “I am bad.” People experiencing humiliation commonly experience shame, particularly when the humiliation is public or involves a behavior closely tied to self-esteem.

Ritualized Humiliation

Initiation rituals sometimes use humiliation. For example, hazing often causes its victims to be humiliated. Humiliation also sometimes plays a role in sexual relationships. Sexual mishaps can be particularly humiliating, but some people also choose to participate in consensual humiliation by participating in sadomasochism, bondage, domination, or sexual discipline.

Effects of Humiliation

Incidents and feelings of humiliation can both lead to serious mental health problems. Generalized anxiety and depression are common among people who have experienced public humiliation, and severe forms of humiliation can be crippling, causing a person to abandon his or her interests or stop pursuing goals. When parents use humiliation as a form of punishment, the consequences can be particularly damaging. Children who have been humiliated by their parents may suffer from chronically low self-esteem as well as a host of mental health problems.

References:

  1. Humiliation. (n.d.). Emotional Competency. Retrieved from http://www.emotionalcompetency.com/humiliation.htm
  2. Rosenberg, S. (n.d.). Humiliation. Beyond Intractability. Retrieved from http://www.beyondintractability.org/bi-essay/Humiliation

Last Updated: 08-7-2015

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  • Gary

    Gary

    January 20th, 2018 at 12:50 AM

    This is why public naming and shaming is abuse, particularly on the internet. A person’s reputation can be destroyed instantaneously and permanently, leaving people with no choice but to take measures such as suicide. Regardless of whether a person thinks the shaming is warranted, the intention to humiliate another individual online is a low, low act. In fact, it is the ultimate form of bullying. It seems to be a great sport to kick people when they are down or when they make mistakes. As the saying goes, in order to belittle, one has to be little.

  • James C.

    James C.

    March 9th, 2019 at 11:48 AM

    You are right.

  • Michael P.

    Michael P.

    September 7th, 2019 at 1:34 AM

    Nice

  • Jay

    Jay

    December 30th, 2019 at 8:39 PM

    I experienced years of public humiliation daily going to and from school in the form of chanting that I was gay . It is still with me twenty five years later. I was crushed and have never recovered.

  • Nata

    Nata

    February 16th, 2020 at 12:45 AM

    I’m so sorry you went through that. It hurts like emotional hell, I know. I’m happy to see one can survive this crap.

  • Michael

    Michael

    February 4th, 2020 at 10:11 AM

    Medical treatment is too often humiliating and unnecessary. Such as the use of the Foley catheter. Other procedures such as colonoscopies and prostate biopsies are not only degrading, but too often cause physical harm and damage to a patient’s quality of life. All in the name of preemption. This goes way beyond so-called modesty issues. It’s as if as soon as one becomes a patient they no longer have any human rights. The right to refuse is often ignored or challenged. Patients are routinely labeled as having some kind of mental disorder (or phobia) when they object to unnecessary and unwanted “procedures”. Or fear shaming is deployed by medical staff. Too much of today’s medical practices are medieval. The first rule of medicine, “First do no harm”, is routinely violated. A great deal of harm is caused patients. Physically, mentally and to the patient’s quality of life. Overdiagnosis and overtreatment are often involved. As a result, many people avoid doctors, and only see them when it’s mandated by a third party, such as a school, an employer or one’s insurance provider. A patient’s dignity and quality of life counts, because without that, what’s the point in living in the first place? If doctors are just half as intelligent as they pretend to be, they should be able to care for their patients without putting them through unnecessary trauma. A big part of the problem is the profit motive. More so-called treatment means more money.

  • Odezue

    Odezue

    May 10th, 2020 at 4:27 PM

    I have been seen naked while dressing up, called to the assembly floor to brush my teeth and laughed at while presenting in a debate. All these happened in the same school and since then, I’ve lost the confidence to talk to a girl or present in front of a crowd. I always anticipate myself making a mistake before I do anything and memories of those events have been stuck in my head like forever.

  • Gary

    Gary

    May 29th, 2020 at 12:37 PM

    Jay I’m sorry you had to feel that way. I too understand what this is like I live it daily hence the reason iv been looking for support. I’m litterly at my wits end and have lost all control of my anxiety and self worth. Yet still try to keep a brave face daily and it seems my bubble is getting smaller. I’m one of the kindest people you could meet and I’m hurt beyond words at how people can treat another. Iv been drinking for the last 10years to try cope with it. I’m 9 weeks sober today and I’m 33 and praying that I meet people I trust and I no to do this I need my confidence back. Im sorry to anyone who has had to suffer simular things and I can just say hang in there if you ever need a talk you can email me and I’ll help all I can. I say to myself think about the goal and not the journey I hope you do too 💚

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