Shirin Shoai, LMFT, Counseling in Oakland, California, 94610

Shirin Shoai, LMFT

Shirin Shoai, LMFT

Professions: Counselor, Marriage & Family Therapist, Psychotherapist
License Status: I'm a licensed professional.
Primary Credential: Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist - 97538
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1-800-651-8085 ext. 20869
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3223 Lakeshore Ave.
Oakland, California 94610
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I do not work with insurance companies

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If you're reading this, you're probably going through a confusing time right now.

You might be reeling in the aftermath (or anticipation) of an overwhelming life event, unclear about what's happened, what it means, and what to do about it.

Maybe you're feeling stuck in life, knowing there's more out there for you but unsure of what it is or how to get there. Or perhaps you're on a clearer path but experiencing anxiety, fears, or blocks that keep you from fully embracing it.

Maybe you need help understanding how to get your needs met in your closest relationships, how to better meet your loved one's needs, or whether a relationship is right for you at all.

Given life's challenges, sometimes we can feel out of our depth. If this feels true for you right now, psychotherapy is a worthy investment. I offer relational psychotherapy with equal emphasis on insight and action. You can expect engaged listening, a nonjudgmental perspective, and a focus on helping you access your own inner wisdom.

Email or Call Shirin Shoai, LMFT at 1-800-651-8085 ext. 20869

More Info About My Practice

In addition to individual and couples therapy, I offer two interpersonal process groups:

Relationship to culture, Relationship to each other, Relationship to self:
A weekly process group for mixed-race women of color

(Dates TBD)

Space is limited to 6 participants; in-person intake required.

As a mixed-race woman, finding both outer and inner acceptance can be a daunting task. We must contend with managing cultural projections, define our own identities at the risk of alienating others, and strike a healthy balance between honoring our own racial experience while making space for others' realities.

Still, we can learn to feel more secure in ourselves even as we acknowledge our collective struggles. This interpersonal process group can help.

In this group, you will:

- Make authentic connections with other multiracial women
- Understand yourself better in relationship to others
- Develop inner resources to aid in your personal growth

Call (415) 663-6071 or visit my website for more information.

Motherless Daughters
(Dates TBD)

Space is limited to 6 participants; in-person intake required.

If you're a woman who identifies as "motherless"--either through estrangement, abandonment, illness, or death--join a healing gathering of women who understand your challenges. Here, you will discover a safe, supportive space to connect with women like you; share your story without shame; and find comfort and strategies for living through loss.

Call (415) 663-6071 or visit my website for more information.

Specific Issue(s) I'm Skilled at Helping With

Contact me if you're experiencing issues related to anxiety, depression, relationship challenges, self-identity, life transitions, and grief. I can support you in identifying behaviors that no longer serve you; easing self-criticism; improving communication; setting healthy boundaries; working with loss and change; and clarifying life, relationship, or career goals.

My Therapy Focus

My style is validating, perceptive, and mindful. I believe in giving you the space you need to get in touch with your emotions, and I support you in learning to be with them in an empowering new way. This translates into your life as feeling more grounded, open, secure, and energized.

My approach blends psychodynamic, relational, and Internal Family Systems therapy, and is informed by research on shame resilience, self-compassion, and mindfulness. Ultimately, my intention is for you to complete therapy with a sense of positive resolution and increased capability to weather life's ups and downs.

If this feels like a fit, contact me for an initial consultation.

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Services I Provide

  • Group Therapy
  • Individual Therapy & Counseling
  • Marriage, Couples, or Relationship Counseling

Ages I Work With

  • Adults


  • English

Groups I Work With

    Motherless daughters, people of color, creative professionals and entrepreneurs, artists, emotional trauma survivors.

Client Concerns I Treat

  • Adjusting to Change / Life Transitions
  • Anxiety
  • Attachment Issues
  • Career Choice
  • Caregiver Issues / Stress
  • Codependency / Dependency
  • Communication Problems
  • Creative Blocks
  • Depression
  • Emotional Abuse
  • Family of Origin Issues
  • Grief, Loss, and Bereavement
  • Identity Issues
  • Inadequacy
  • Individuation
  • Life Purpose / Meaning / Inner-Guidance
  • Multicultural Concerns
  • Posttraumatic Stress / Trauma
  • Relationships and Marriage
  • Self-Care
  • Self-Compassion
  • Self-Confidence
  • Self-Doubt
  • Self-Esteem
  • Shame
  • Social Anxiety / Phobia
  • Stress
  • Trust Issues
  • Women's Issues
  • Worry

Types of Therapy

  • Depth Therapy
  • Gestalt Therapy
  • Integration of different therapy models
  • Internal Family Systems
  • Mindfulness Based Interventions
  • Non-Violent Communication
  • Object Relations
  • Psychodynamic
  • Relational Psychotherapy
  • Sand Tray / Sand Play Therapy
  • Self Psychology

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