Rulik Perla, MFT 43965

Rulik Perla, MFT 43965

Verified Credentials

  • Profession(s):

    Counseling, Marriage & Family Therapy, Psychotherapy

  • License Status:

    I'm a licensed professional.

  • Primary License:

    MFT - 43965

 
My Approach to Helping
I want to know what brings a smile to your face as you realize there is life to be lived. Our relationship is in the service of real, lasting change that will come from collaboration based on trust.
There is a part in you, that know exactly why it came here and what is the task at hand.
I like to ask my clients early in our work? "How will you know that you received what you came for?" We re-visit this question until one day we both know the work is done.
While I will be keenly interested in how your past has brought you here, we will not dwell there. I am much more interested in what's present for you now and how the best in you can unfold.
The change that will revitalize your life will not come from insight alone. We will engage in dialogue, storytelling, relaxation, imagery, dream exploration, and pay attention to body sensation, the seat of the soul.
I am multifaceted by nature. A trained musician and composer, a highly regarded software designer, an experienced sailor, a resident and student of many international cultures, a life-long and committed spiritual practitioner, and a loving, happy father and husband.
I am an associate of the Milton H. Erickson Institute of the Bay Area and a member of CAMFT.

 

 

Specific Issue(s) I'm Skilled at Helping With

Life transitions. Loss of meaning. Spiritual confusion. Marriage and relationships.

 

How Psychotherapy Can Help

By helping inner parts claim their voice and space and resolving inner conflicts and restoring hope.

 

My View on the Purpose of Psychotherapy

live better through greater awareness.

 

What I Love about Being a Psychotherapist

Meeting people and helping them help themselves.

 

My Role as a Therapist

Like a midwife or a sounding board. HOW DO I LISTEN? How Do I Listen to others? As if everyone were my Master Speaking to me His Cherished Last Words. (“The Gift” – versions of Hafiz by Daniel Ladinsky)

 

My Therapy Focus

How Did the Rose Ever open its heart And give to this world All its Beauty? I felt the encouragement of light Against its Being, Otherwise, We all remain Too Frightened. ~Hafiz~

 

What I Usually Need to Know to Help

What do they love.

 

My Guiding Ethical Principles

Respect boundaries. Be aware of the right time. Be of service to my clients.

 

On the Fence About Going to Therapy?

Until one is committed there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one's favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamt would have come his way. I have learned a deep respect for one of Goethe's couplets: "Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it. " W. H. Murray The Scottish Himalayan Expedition

 

Had a Negative Therapy Experience?

Instantes (Instants) If I were able to live my life anew, In the next I would try to commit more errors. I would not try to be so perfect, I would relax more. I would be more foolish than I’ve been, In fact, I would take few things seriously. I would be less hygienic. I would run more risks, take more vacations, contemplate more sunsets, climb more mountains, swim more rivers. I would go to more places where I’ve never been, I would eat more ice cream and fewer beans, I would have more real problems and less imaginary ones. I was one of those people that lived sensibly and prolifically each minute of his life; Of course I had moments of happiness. If I could go back I would try to have only good moments. Because if you didn’t know, of that is life made: only of moments; Don’t lose the now. I was one of those that never went anywhere without a thermometer, a hot-water bottle, an umbrella, and a parachute; If I could live again, I would travel lighter. If I could live again, I would begin to walk barefoot from the beginning of spring and I would continue barefoot until autumn ends. I would take more cart rides, contemplate more dawns, and play with more children, If I had another life ahead of me. But already you see, I am 85, and I know that I am dying. Jorge Luis Borges

 

Important Factors for Choosing a Therapist

Chemistry - trust your intuition

 

How My Own Struggles Made Me a Better Therapist

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Theoretical Influences that Guide My Work

All theory is for the comfort of the therapist. I am inspired by Milton Erickson, Carl Jung and Thomas Moore to name a few.

 

What I Say to People Concerned about the Therapy Process

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Services I Provide
  • Individual Therapy & Counseling
  • Marriage, Couples, or Relationship Counseling
  • Group Therapy
  • Consultation
  • Clinical Supervision
Ages I Work With
  • Adults
Languages I Speak
  • English
  • Hebrew
Therapy Approaches I Use
  • Body-Mind Psychotherapy
  • Depth-Oriented Brief Therapy
  • Dreamwork & Dream Analysis
  • Emotional Freedom Technique
  • Existential Psychotherapy
  • Guided Therapeutic Imagery
  • Holistic Psychotherapy
  • Humanistic Psychology
  • Hypnotherapy
  • Interpersonal Psychotherapy
  • Mindfulness Based Approaches
  • Narrative Therapy
  • Non-Violent Communication
  • Positive Psychotherapy
  • Self Acceptance Training
  • Self Relations
  • Solution Focused Therapy
  • Transpersonal Psychotherapy
  • Voice Dialogue
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Locations & Maps

Office 1:
1600 Shattuck Ave.
Berkeley, CA 94709 United States
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Office 2:

Grass Valley, CA 95945 United States
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Concerns & Issues I Help With
  • Life Changes
  • Emotion Management
  • Social Skills & Problems
  • Anxiety, Fear, & Stress
  • Occupational & Academic Issues
  • Health & Body
  • Relationships & Marriage
  • Depression & Mood
  • Family Problems
  • Identity Issues
  • Self-Esteem & Confidence
  • Attachment
  • Spirituality
  • Sexuality
  • Self-Harm & Suicide