Therapist Profile

My Approach to Helping

Are you successful in your job, but find that your personal life sucks? Does it drive you crazy that no matter what you do, it seems like the wrong thing? Are you sick and tired of trying to figure out how to please your partner? Does it feel like nothing is ever like it seems and as soon as you think you get it, your partner has moved the goal posts?

Are you angry and resentful that you seem to care about the relationship much more than your partner? Perhaps you are tired of being thoughtful and willing to compromise.

You probably wonder if it is worth your while to keep trying. After all, you usually end up doing most of the giving and get little in return. You have a good heart, you are sincere and affectionate. You've read the books and articles, followed the lessons on the CD's, and attended relationship workshops. You are frustrated and despairing that despite all the time, money and energy you have spent nothing has helped you find and keep the relationship you long for.

No matter how disappointed and bitter you are, there is an ache that just won't go away. You are dying to be wanted, respected, valued and important to a partner. You want to feel lovable and to give love. It's a very human wish, and I can help you make that wish come true.

When you work with me you will learn
1. How to take the guess work out of relationships so you can act with more confidence.
2. How to read your partner accurately so you feel closer and more secure.
3. How to get your partner to tune into you so you aren't permanently frustrated at having to wonder what to do next.
4. How to put words to your confusing feelings so that you don't feel so ashamed.
5. How to manage anger, resentment, disappointment, and bitterness so that they don't block the love and tenderness that is available to you.
6. How to tell the difference between your stuff and your partner's stuff so you don't burden yourself with unnecessary guilt and responsibility.
7. How to recognize when you need to protect yourself versus when you need to be more open. You will be able to keep your emotions on an even keel and not yo-yo from feeling on top of the world one minute to feeling like a waste of space the next minute.
8. How to tell whether you are over reacting or sticking up for yourself so that you can feel good in your skin and not keep beating yourself up.
9. How to ask your partner questions so that you build trust rather than suspicion.
10. How to recognize signs of loyalty, reliability and love in your partner so that you aren't torturing yourself with worry about being taken for a ride.

More Info About My Practice

Old habits die hard and you may be caught in the trap of repeating the same old pattern of picking the wrong person. You may keep getting hurt in the same ways, and never be able to trust anyone. If you find yourself having the same fight, and the same unsatisfying outcomes, I help you figure out what is going wrong and help put you on a more rewarding path.

It isn't your fault that relationships are hard and frustrating for you. You may not have had the chance to learn how to do relationships in a way that brings mutual satisfaction. I can help you catch up on those skills and bring you up to speed.

I teach you the vocabulary and unwritten rules of emotional dialogue. You get to write the script with the ending that you truly want. Two ways I help you find and implement those desires are by encouraging you to bring in dreams and use art in your sessions.