My Approach to Helping
"We can't communicate." "All we do is argue." "He had an affair." "All she does is criticize." "I love her but I'm not in love." "I can't remember the last time we had sex."
Sound familiar? These are the most common reasons people come to us for help.
Individually, or as a couple, we will help you create a deeper, more genuine, intimate connection. Whether you are married, living together, dating; straight or gay, my husband, Bob Hollander, JD, LCSW-C and/or I will work with you to create the relationship you desire.
People describe us as down-to-earth, genuine, warm, inspirational, non-judgmental and balanced. Understanding that it's difficult to change relationship habits, we support your progress when you get stuck - 24/7. We believe "the work" between sessions is vital to creating a deeper connection.
For 30 years we have been working on our own marriage and passionately helping other couples build emotional and sexual intimacy. We continue to train with the leading experts in our field including Sue Johnson, John Gottman, Esther Perel, Terry Real, John Gray and William Doherty.
Giving hope is at the heart of everything we do - Hope for couples seeking to deepen their bond in a world that often makes that difficult. We believe that having a connected, loving, intimate relationship is the key to living a rich life.
On our web site, you can sign up for our weekly eNewsletter to get free relationship tips and advice from us. You can also read our blog, and find links to our community on FB, Twitter, Linked In and You Tube.
Call or email today to let us know how we can help you.
More Info About My Practice
When a couple is committed to "doing whatever it takes," Bob and I strongly believe we can provide the skills and direction to create a loving and intimate bond that will last for a lifetime.
Important Factors for Choosing a Therapist
The therapist you choose may have the life or death of your relationship and family in their hands, so the professional you select is very important. Some couples tell us, "You are the fourth counselor we have been to. The last one let us argue for most of the session and just listened. We were worse off after we left, than before we went in."
Marriage counseling is a specialized type of therapy. It requires different training and skills than individual therapy.
In your search for the counselor who is right for you, ask the following questions:
1) What specific training and experience does the therapist have in couples and marriage counseling?
2) Is the therapist hopeful and oriented toward helping you: build connection, find solutions, work through differences, instead of focusing on the doubts you come in with?
3) How available and responsive is the counselor?
4) Do you and your partner feel a sense of connection with, and respect from, the therapist?
5) What are the therapist's values about marriage and relationships?
Whoever you choose, if you feel you are not progressing, don't give up, try another therapist.
How My Own Struggles Made Me a Better Therapist
Witnessing my parents' separation and divorce as a adolescent was profound. I experienced firsthand the loss that comes from the break up of a marriage and a family. My passion for working with couples and families is a result of this transformative chapter of my life.