Find a Therapist in Fairview, OR

Life brings moments of anxiety, sadness, anger, and grief — experiences that can leave you feeling unsteady or unsure of yourself. I don’t view these emotions as signs that something is wrong with you. Instead, I see them as part of being human and as meaningful openings to understand yourself more deeply. In our work, we slow down, meet your experience with gentleness, and explore it with mindfulness, compassion, and curiosity. I support adults in midlife and beyond who want a healthier, more grounded relationship with their emotions and who feel drawn to exploring meaning through Buddhist‑informed perspectives. My approach is also shaped by Gestalt Therapy, which emphasizes present‑moment awareness, authentic contact, and understanding how your patterns of thinking, feeling, and relating show up in the here and now. Together, we look at the emotional and cognitive habits that may be keeping you stuck. Rather than trying to “fix” who you are, we focus on cultivating steadier, more productive ways of thinking while deepening your capacity to relate to your emotions with compassion and clarity. This process can help you feel more connected to yourself, more grounded in your choices, and more able to navigate life’s transitions with intention. Therapy with me is collaborative and shaped by your goals, honoring your lived experience and the unique ways you’ve learned to move through the world. I walk alongside you as you make sense of what life has brought you and cultivate a more spacious, steady way of being. If this approach resonates, I welcome you to reach out.

Are communication or sexual concerns, broken trust, or infidelity affecting your relationship? Do you want to improve intimacy, connection, and satisfaction? My name is Dr. Valinda Harlan; I am a National Board Certified Counselor (NBCC) specializing in relationship therapy and Gottman Method couples therapy, serving couples across Washington and Oregon I have extensive education, training, and clinical experience helping individuals and couples navigate relationship challenges, improve communication, and rebuild emotional and sexual intimacy. I specialize in infidelity recovery, differences in sexual desire, and life transitions such as postpartum and menopause. My approach is supportive, collaborative and personalized. I work with professionals, busy parents, and 50+ couples who want to strengthen their connection and create lasting change. I help individuals and couples heal, strengthen communication, and rebuild emotional and sexual intimacy in a supportive, nonjudgmental space. I hold a doctorate in clinical psychology and have over 20 years of experience working with individuals and couples. I am a retired psychology professor, and I bring advanced training in emotionally focused therapy (EFT) and sexual wellness. I work with all types of couples and offer personalized strategies tailored to your unique relationship needs. My goal is to help you restore trust, deepen connection, and build a healthier, more fulfilling relationship. Sessions are $250. I accept credit cards, debit, health savings accounts, Venmo, Cash App, PayPal, and cash. I do not accept insurance. Take the first step toward positive change today by visiting my website to learn more.

***NOW OFFERING TELEHEALTH APPOINTMENTS*** Is the quality of your life affected by stress or uncertainty? Would you benefit from practical tools to help increase commitment to valued life goals? Maybe you just want to get back to feeling the way you once did. My approach is about helping people achieve greater understanding of themselves and others, overcome unhelpful patterns, and maintain a valued and meaningful life. It takes wisdom to recognize that you aren't expected to handle every problem by yourself. While you bring self-knowledge and personal experiences to the table, I bring my expertise and understanding of human psychological processes. Together we can resolve some of life's most difficult challenges. Since 2008, I've helped hundreds of people find effective solutions and gain greater control. I offer psychological evaluation and individual therapy for teens and adults dealing with ADHD, anxiety, depression, relationship concerns, and adjustment to life stress.

We seek therapy in order to decrease suffering. My commitment is to aide you in achieving this goal. Where we focus-- whether that's on your current experience, on your early attachment to caregivers, or on developing effective coping skills-- depends on what you feel is most important. This is one of the things we address in our first consultation. Often we carry the solutions to our problems within ourselves. My work is to elicit these solutions. I approach this by seeking to increase both your and my awareness. Our awareness of where things in your life come from, what purpose they're trying to serve, what your values are, what works for you and what doesn't work so well. Therapy is deeply collaborative. It requires your sense of being safe and free from judgment as much as it does my compassion and training. It can be one of the most creative works in a person's life, in which they take an active and effective hand in making that life. I look forward to working with you.

I believe wholeheartedly in the potential for growth and healing. For many, counseling offers the possibility of meaningful personal and relational change. For others, it offers the realization that by dissolving old patterns of thinking and believing, life is perfect exactly the way it is. My approach is non-judgmental, direct and interactive as I work in collaboration with clients, helping them to navigate what growth, change, and healing is before them in order to experience a greater sense of personal and relational well-being.

My practice specializes in supporting individuals navigating the unique challenges of living with ongoing health issues. Through a blend of strength-based positive psychology and narrative therapy, we'll focus on your resilience, helping you rewrite your story to be one of empowerment, not just endurance. You'll gain practical coping skills and tools designed to increase calm and manage daily stressors effectively. Let's work together to help you thrive.

Jessica holds a Master of Arts degree in counseling from the Townsend Institute for Leadership and Counseling (2021) and a Bachelor of Science degree in neuroscience (2003). Her major coursework includes human development, trauma, attachment, multicultural diversity within families, character development, anxiety, and depression. She is a certified Gottman therapist and holds additional certifications in trust-based relational intervention, child-centered play therapy, and Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts. Jessica has experience working with children, teens, individuals, and couples who find themselves walking through grief, trauma, and relationally challenging events. She believes character growth and relationship health develop through healing connections where it is safe to explore and process one’s internal world. Jessica has personally enjoyed traveling and living abroad, raising and homeschooling her five kids, and going on outdoor adventures with friends.

You may be feeling stuck in patterns that keep showing up in your relationships, struggling with anxiety or self-doubt, feeling disconnected from yourself or others, or carrying the impact of experiences that continue to affect you in the present. You may have a good understanding of why things are happening and still find yourself reacting in ways that feel frustrating, overwhelming, or hard to shift. I believe therapy works best when you feel safe enough to be honest about what is really going on. My goal is to create a space where you can slow down, make sense of your experiences, and explore the emotions and patterns underneath what is bringing you to therapy. Together, we can better understand what is getting in the way and begin creating more choice in how you respond to yourself, your relationships, and the situations you face. My approach is warm, collaborative, and grounded in the belief that our experiences and relationships shape the ways we connect with ourselves and others. I draw from emotionally focused therapy (EFT), internal family systems (IFS), attachment-based approaches, and mindfulness practices to help clients develop greater self-understanding and identify new ways of relating to themselves and the people they care about. I work with individuals and couples navigating relationship concerns, anxiety, self-worth, emotional overwhelm, and the effects of difficult life experiences. You do not have to have everything figured out before coming to therapy. My role is to meet you where you are, help you make sense of what feels stuck, and support you as you move toward a life that feels more connected, intentional, and fulfilling.

My approach focuses on identifying and healing subconscious patterns and protective responses shaped by trauma and early life experiences. I help clients reconnect with their sense of safety and self-trust.

I want to help you feel better. Whether you are struggling with anxiety, depression, grief, or painful relationships, I bring a deep commitment to helping you find new ways of moving forward in your life with greater awareness, compassion, and connectedness. My approach is influenced by a belief that conscious and healthy choices are developed partially through the perspective gained from deep awareness. While cognitive understanding of the causes of suffering is useful, opportunities for change increase with expanded awareness. This includes learning how your body holds subconscious material that contributes to troublesome beliefs and actions. Once subconscious material is uncovered we work together to develop new ways of responding, helping you and your relationships to feel more secure and invigorated. I am at ease working with people whose lives have been strengthened and challenged by a broad range of factors including cultural, spiritual, political, and socioeconomic influences, intergenerational mental illness or family strife, and people with difficulties unique to gender and sexual minorities.