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I use an insightful and personalized approach to help clients identify barriers to happiness and gain a better understanding of their emotions and experiences. Knowing yourself deeply is an essential ingredient in creating the life you want, and this type of emotional learning ideally occurs within the context of a non-judgmental therapeutic relationship. My goal is to help clients explore behavioral patterns and achieve psychological well-being. My approach focuses on helping clients with a range of issues such as grief, depression, anxiety, interpersonal conflict, and anger management. I provide clients with the emotional self-regulation tools, coping and communication skills, mindfulness techniques, and self-management strategies needed to cultivate change.

Lillian is not only a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW), but also a New York Chapter member of the National Association of Black Social Workers, Inc (NABSW). With over ten years of experience working in a variety of different mental health settings, including outpatient, inpatient and addiction. She utilizes a strength-based perspective offering a holistic approach that includes a traditional therapeutic process, anti-oppressive liberation, meditation mindfulness and self-care practices to promote healing and attainment of maximum potential. Lillian received her bachelor’s degree from Herbert Lehman College, City University of New York, in Social Work. She also earned a master’s degree from the Adelphi University School of Social Work. As an ally who stands in solidarity with refugees and immigrants of any status, Lillian incorporates cultural sensitivity into her work to accommodate different values and attitudes of various cultures and diverse populations. Lillian empowers, motivates and encourages individuals, couples and families by providing strategies to assist them in working through life changes utilizing Structured Problem-Solving, Cognitive Behavioral and Trauma-focused therapy. Lillian also uses psychoanalytical and psychodynamic approaches, mindfulness and motivational interviewing techniques. Her therapeutic focus includes, but is not limited to, interpersonal difficulties, anxiety, depression, bereavement, cultural and diversity issues, anger management, domestic violence, sexual, and childhood trauma, life transitions, LGBTQ issues, and substance abuse. Lillian is a down-to-earth therapist who believes in providing a safe and supportive space where individuals can be authentic while overcoming their barriers. Further, Lillian believes that no one is exempt from needing assistance in remembering true greatness from within.

Offices in HACKENSACK - TEANECK - RAMSEY - DENVILLE - RIDGEWOOD - PARSIPPANY - PARAMUS - ORADELL, NJ PLEASE VIEW PROFILE for LIST of SERVICES. We work with many insurance companies, and we submit all claims for you. Professional and compassionate coaching and counseling for adults, children and teens, couples, families, marriage, premarital, addictions, grief and bereavement, and pet loss therapy in Bergen County and Morris County, Northern New Jersey for over 30 years. Specific Issue(s) with which Search for Self (formerly Mars & Venus Counseling Center) is Skilled: -Adult counseling -Couples counseling -Relationship counseling -Premarital counseling -Marriage counseling -Family counseling -Child counseling -Teen counseling -Life coaching -Addiction counseling -Grief and bereavement counseling -Pet loss therapy -Stress and anxiety -Depression -Low self-esteem -Perfectionism -Worry -Indecision -Procrastination -Phobias -Assertiveness issues FOR COUPLES, RELATIONSHIP, PREMARITAL, MARRIAGE COUNSELING: We use "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus" as the basic premise and guidance for couples work. Dr. John Gray has developed a complete clinical approach to couples counseling that integrates all of his ideas. You will learn how to understand, respect, and honor the differences between yourself and your partner. You will learn what your needs are, as well as your partner's, and how to meet them. We also incorporate the theories and philosophies of other leaders in relationship counseling to develop an eclectic style of couples counseling. FOR INDIVIDUALS: We all bring our unresolved issues from our past into our adulthood. These blocks create obstacles to our individual success and happiness. There is an infinite number of issues that can be raised in counseling. The goal of the counseling is to help you achieve your own goals and feel free of issues by which you feel burdened. We have studied and integrated theories and practice methods of many leaders in the field of individual counseling. Our training has added numerous tools in helping one overcome blocks to success and happiness. FOR CHILD, ADOLESCENT, and FAMILY COUNSELING: We provide specialized, compassionate and professional services with expertise in varying symptoms and diagnosis for children and teens and their families. Some areas of concern might be behavioral problems, low self-esteem, hyperactivity, school problems, depression or adjustment and coping troubles. Spanish-speaking therapists available. We submit all insurance claims for you.

I provide psychological services to help children and parents lead meaningful and vibrant lives. Disruptive behaviors, changes in the family structure, traumatic experiences, and developmental issues are some of many challenges families are faced with. Whether the school work has become too challenging, the behaviors seem unmanageable, you are concerned about your childs academic, social, or emotional development, or you are finding it difficult to sustain a healthy and enjoyable relationship with your child, services I provide can assist you. Those challenges are often accompanied with worry and concern as your child matures to a new stage of development and their needs change. Parents are faced with decisions on how to discipline, manage, and foster your childs physical, social, and emotional well-being. I offer individual, parent-child (dyadic), group, and individual parent consultations services are available to those seeking support, guidance, and meaning to what is taking place within themselves, their child, or their family.

Many of my clients come to therapy for help with relationships, and are frustrated that they repeat patterns but don't have an alternative. I believe relationships are central to life and I also know that much of what we learn about how to relate comes from childhood. Often we've outgrown certain ways of interacting, but it can be hard to know what or how to do things differently. My approach to therapy is collaborative and leans heavily on curiosity. I don't see therapy as a place to "get fixed" but a place to explore, learn, and embrace who you are. In order to do things differently, we need to understand ourselves, and this requires an open, non-judgmental a mind. Of course it can feel difficult and even scary to learn about yourself or discover new things, so I will work at your pace and refer to you as the expert on your experiences. I have great respect for our ability to heal and grow if given the opportunity and a safe space to do so. I believe we are all capable of living a life that aligns with who we authentically are, not the person we created to make the world happy.

Welcome to my profile - I am a clinically trained licensed social worker in NJ. I specialize in treating children, adolescents, teens, families, and women's issues for a number of issues including anxiety, depression, problematic behaviors, and relationships. I also work with families with relationship concerns and parenting support and guidance. My approach to treatment is driven by evidence-based practices as well as the development of a therapeutic relationship with my young clients. I aim to conduct counseling in a caring, safe, and judgment free setting. I also enlist parents in the treatment process to ensure that newly developed skills are more easily generalized to the client's world outside of the office. In addition to conducting in office counseling, I am available to work with school-aged clients and families in consulting with schools regarding educational needs. Furthermore, I am proud to now offer fully remote online video counseling sessions via a secure tele-health platform. Please call me today for a free brief phone consultation.

I offer bilingual therapy in English and Spanish for children ages 8 and older, teens, adults, and couples. My specialties include cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), attachment-based (ABFT), motivational interviewing, and ecosystemic therapy. I consider both what you are experiencing personally and how your relationships, culture, and environment affect your well-being. Together, we can explore patterns, build coping skills, and work toward meaningful change. If you are wondering whether we would be a good fit, I invite you to reach out for a 15-minute phone consultation. You do not need to have everything figured out before you call. We can start with a conversation.

My approach to helping my clients is nonjudgmental, strength-based, and curious. Through the use of several psychodynamic approaches and applied Jungian analysis, I am able to help clients transform their lives by exploring their self-concept and improving their self-esteem. I believe that a nonjudgmental approach helps us uncover painful patterns and past experiences while fostering sustainable self-reflection.

Shiela is a board-certified Psychiatric-Mental Health Nurse Practitioner (Psychiatric Mental Health Nurse Practitioner (PMHNP)-BC) who manages and treats a wide range of mental health concerns, including depression, anxiety, attention-deficit hyperactivity (ADHD), sleep challenges and insomnia, and other concerns not listed. Shiela is passionate about providing quality, compassionate, and comprehensive mental health services to adolescents and adults. As a PMHNP, Shiela’s role includes providing education, advocating for mental health, offering therapy, and managing medication.