My Approach to Helping
Life is filled with challenges. We all approach these challenges in characteristic ways that are shaped by the life we have lived up until that moment. We learn how to respond to challenges based on what has been helpful in the past. As we grow and move through life, these ways of coping can become less advantageous. But, being human, we double down on our known ways of coping, which can sometimes exacerbate the distressing feelings that we are feeling. In therapy, I can help you learn to notice these patterns, the ways they have helped, and the ways in which they no longer serve you. Together, we will work to create more options for you to respond to the challenges of life.
When you decide to schedule, we'll meet, and you'll share with me what brings you in and what you're hoping to get out of the process. We will check in about how it feels to speak with one another and if it feels like it might be a good fit. This goodness of fit is an important indicator of how successful therapy can be, and it is important that we both feel that we can work together.
Once we decide to move forward, we'll meet at least weekly, and begin to explore what brought you to this place in life, and how that path has shaped you. I will ask you questions about the details of what you're sharing as much as how it makes you feel, and we will look for ways to increase your understanding of self, and consequently increase your freedom of choices in life. I am an active therapist, asking direct questions designed to get you to reflect on your life and notice previously unseen aspects of your experience. I also offer hypothesis about what might be going on, and encourage you to reflect on these, and if they fit, for us to continue to work on understanding so that you can feel more in control of the life you want to live.