My Approach to Helping
Life is challenging. Along the way we all develop coping skills, some are helpful, others are not. Sometimes life presents us with too many challenges, changes or losses at the same time and our normal coping skills just aren't enough. That's when it's time to consider finding a therapist you feel comfortable with and who you can trust.
My approach to therapy could be called eclectic. It's based on what I've learned working with individuals and couples over many years but is also deeply rooted in the principles of cognitive therapy. The premise of cognitive therapy is that it's your thoughts that cause your feelings. If you want to change the way you feel, you need to change the way you think. And there's always another way of looking at things. It's not that our pain, emotional or otherwise, isn't real. It's that often the things we say to ourselves, our "self-talk", is what makes the difference in how we deal with and move through our pain and disappointment. The good news is that self-talk is something we have control over and can choose to change. My job as a therapist is to listen intently to your story and ask the questions that will help you discover what else may be true and possible for your life.