Terri DiMatteo, Licensed Professional Counselor

If you're reading this late at night, unable to sleep because of what you found on your partner's phone, or because the person lying next to you feels like a stranger, I want you to know you've come to the right place. Relationship pain can make you feel unsteady and alone. You don't have to sort it out by yourself. I'm warm, honest, and grounded, and I won't hand you a workbook or a script of communication techniques. Instead, I'll listen closely to what's happening underneath the words: the hurt beneath the anger, the longing beneath the distance, the fear beneath the silence. Here is what I believe. Romantic love is meant to be a refuge, a place where you feel wanted, understood, and safe. When couples fight constantly, drift apart, or carry quiet resentment, something has come between them. Our work is to find it, understand it, and clear it away so closeness can return. An affair is a different kind of injury. It doesn't just come between partners; it shakes the ground they stand on. If you're facing infidelity, we'll start by steadying the crisis. Then we'll work, carefully and at a pace you can manage, toward the hardest task in couples therapy: rebuilding trust. I'll be honest with you that this isn't always possible. When it is, I'll help you get there. When it isn't, I'll help you part with clarity and dignity. If you've been in a relationship with a narcissistic partner or family member, our work will be individual, because couples therapy isn't safe in that situation. Together, we'll make sense of what you lived through and help you trust your own mind again. My approach is attachment-based and guided by The Intimacy Bond™, a framework I developed from more than a decade of work with couples. In plain terms, it means I pay close attention to two things: how emotionally connected you feel, and how physically close and desired you feel. When both are strong, a relationship can weather almost anything. All sessions are online, so you can meet with me from anywhere in New Jersey. If something here speaks to you, I'd welcome the chance to talk. Reach out for a complimentary consultation, and let's see whether we're a good fit.

Open Door Therapy is a one-clinician practice, and that's by design. From your first phone call through your final session, you'll work with me and only me. No one else will screen your call, review your story, or hand you off along the way. Something this personal deserves that kind of continuity. I offer couples counseling, individual therapy, and consulting. Most of my clients come to me for help with relationship distress, recovery after infidelity, or healing from narcissistic abuse. Consulting is a separate, more focused option for people who want practical, solution-oriented guidance rather than ongoing therapy, perhaps to think through a difficult family situation, a major personal decision, or a workplace problem that's spilling into the rest of life. Every session takes place by secure video, which means you can meet with me from anywhere in New Jersey, without a commute or a waiting room. I keep evening and weekend hours so therapy can fit around full workdays and family responsibilities. Along with standard 60-minute sessions, I offer 90-minute and 2-hour sessions, which many couples find give them room to reach the conversations that matter most. The way I understand relationships grows out of The Intimacy Bond™, an attachment-based framework I developed over years of clinical work. I explore these ideas further in my writing at LoveBonds, and I'm often asked to comment on infidelity, attachment, and modern love for publications such as Vogue, Newsweek, and TODAY. Getting started is simple. We begin with a complimentary consultation, a relaxed conversation where you can tell me a little about what's happening, ask your questions, and get a sense of whether I'm the right person to help. You won't be asked to commit to anything. If you've been holding this on your own, I hope you'll reach out. Taking that first step is often the hardest part, and you don't have to take the rest alone.