My Approach to Helping
I have more than 21 years of experience in mental health. My experience has taught me to explore conflict and stress from a multidimensional approach. Conflict is the result of ineffective or unclear interactions or patterns, or from the dance cycles that people get into. Do you notice that you sometimes move smoothly along life's dance floor, but other times step on one another's toes? If you find that the smooth times are less frequent, it's time to explore how your dance interacts with others, and how theirs interacts with yours. Toe-stomping dances may result from past experiences, unspoken misunderstandings, present beliefs, or different understandings of the conflict.
People who can't resolve conflicts may attempt solutions they think will be effective, in an attempt to escape or change what they experience. Drugs, alcohol, sex, Internet addiction, and violence may all offer temporary escape, but they never work to change the situation. The only way to resolve conflict is through a head-on meeting of the minds. A neutral third party such as a therapist can help you see another perspective and find resolutions you never considered.
Our role is to offer efficient and effective problem-solving. At the Sloane Center, we believe all people possess innate knowledge and strength that can help them overcome life's challenges. Our job is to help the individual identify her or his hidden strengths while helping him or her answer the questions that brought him or her to therapy.