My Approach to Helping
I work together with you to help you feel happier, healthier, and more balanced in your life, work and relationships. Every one of us brings a unique set of concerns and strengths to life; a counseling approach that works for one person may not work for the next person. That's why my approach is eclectic; so we can find the best therapy for you.
Some guiding ideas in my work are to facilitate change by focusing on the here and now, using awareness and acceptance and building on the strengths that you already have. If you're in therapy you most likely want to change something about your life. Change comes naturally when there's space in your life. And that's what we do in therapy - we learn how to create spaciousness so that there's room to maneuver and skillfully address the issues in our life.
More Info About My Practice
I work mostly with adult and older adolescent men on issues of depression, anxiety, trauma, and life transitions.
If you are hesitant to go to therapy, I understand. There can be a lot in the way: a lifetime of denying that you need help, hiding the problems in your life, repressing the discomfort that you feel. All on top of family and social pressures.
Sometimes it takes a shock for us to step up to therapy - an ultimatum, an aggressive act, a disturbing thought, a realization that you feel isolated, a sense of meaninglessness or of being lost. And sometimes it just feels like life has changed and you don't know how to adjust. I've worked with men on many different issues: relationships, depression, grief, burnout, identity issues, mid-life concerns, existential crises, workplace issues, worklife balance, anger management, anxiety, suicide, PTSD, a history of childhood sexual abuse, emotional abuse, physical abuse or neglect.
Different men want different things out of therapy: tools to better navigate life, a way to break out of a pattern of behavior, insight to understand, an uninvolved person to hear your side, help to process a difficult experience, a strategy to move forward, and so on. In reality therapy is a journey and one can't be certain where it will lead.
Courage is the quality of acting in the face of fear. It takes courage to go on this journey. If you recognize yourself if these words, if you are ready to dive into your life, then maybe it’s time to give me a call.
Important Factors for Choosing a Therapist
One of the most important factors that leads to a good experience of therapy is the "fit" between the client and the therapist. Beyond the practical concerns of availability, location, and finances, a good fit comes down to trust and feeling safe. As you're reading this page, as you're looking at my website, as you're talking to me on the phone or during our first session, just check in with yourself - "Do I feel safe enough and do I trust him enough to keep going?" Not every therapist is going to be a good fit for you, the client. That's OK. And the connection between client and therapist will change over time; hopefully becoming more in-tune. That's why I talked about the connection being good "enough."