My Approach to Helping
As an ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy) therapist, I combine ancient wisdom traditions with 3rd wave therapeutic methods to help you re-train your mind, rewire you brain and do what works. My primary focus is empowering you take a deep dive into your unique “operating systems” so you can learn to ‘run your mind and emotions’, instead of being run by the unworkable patterns and conditioned reflexes that have kept you stuck… sometimes for years or even decades.
Using psycho-education, training, skill-building, metaphor, and experiential exercises, I give clients the tools they need to fearlessly let go of unworkable patterns, so they can make the fundamental shifts that will open them up to a fuller, richer, more meaningful life… and finally do what truly works with flexibility, courage, and joy.
I am known for my ability to ask good questions, to create a supportive, nonjudgmental environment, to inspire frequent ‘aha’ moments, to give direct feedback, and to never let your false self run the show. I have a myriad of resources, tools & transformational techniques… that I freely share, to help you a jump-start, then refine your process along the way.
Specific Issue(s) I'm Skilled at Helping With
I am particularly skilled at helping others with anxiety related disorders; PTSD, Social Anxiety, Panic Disorder, Agoraphobia, OCD and Generalized Anxiety, as well as working with depression, grief and spiritual issues.
Important Factors for Choosing a Therapist
Most people show up at therapy when they've all ready exhausted all the change strategies in their personal tool belts. At this point folks often feel hopeless and willing to try anything. Nonetheless, it's important to choose someone you're aligned with on a number of levels.
For almost everyone, it's important to feel heard, understood, validated and accepted. Most folks also enjoy a warm, supportive, non-judgmental environment. These are givens.
But beyond this, it's important to choose a therapist with whom you feel aligned on deeper levels.
* How does your therapist view the change process? Does (s)he believe it takes years of insight work, or does (s)he focus on solutions, the present, and effective action?
* What does your therapist believe are the goals of therapy?
* How does your therapist intend to meet your goals?
* What's your therapist?s theoretical orientation? Does it make sense to you?
* Do you feel comfortable telling your therapist when things aren't working?
* Are you feeling more motivated, energized and alive as a result of the work?
* Does your therapist continue to upgrade and improve skills, engage in personal work, or have the life experience that aligns with yours?
It's important to take your time and choose well. You are the consumer, Take your time, shop around and find a good match because the work is serious and has the potential to change your life at the core.
My View on the Nature of 'Disorders'
I don't believe people are disordered, broken or damaged. Rather, I believe people get stuck in un-resourceful patterns that can create distress in their lives. By addressing the negative or unwanted patterns and discovering how they are held in place and fortified through thoughts and action, you can begin unraveling and re-patterning the way you organize the details of your life.
Interesting, the very same brain structures and mind patterns that hold negative patterns in place, can also be used to engage, fortify and hard-wire in other more resourceful, flexible, life-giving patterns. To the brain, patterns are patterns and once you learn how your own internal operating system works, you can use it to make the kind of changes you want