My Approach to Helping
I profoundly enjoy working with people in an accepting and nonjudgmental atmosphere that helps them actualize their potentials for healing and for being the very best that they can be. As your psychotherapy proceeds, we work to create a safe relationship through which you can experience unknown or even feared aspects of your personality more clearly. We explore possible adjustments in your behaviors, habits, thinking, and emotional processing to improve your life, increase happiness and self-efficacy, and deepen self-love; and we will explore how you can make these changes.
More Info About My Practice
I work out our home with my husband, Royal E. Alsup, Ph.D. People coming to our home for psychotherapy find the environment very comforting and relaxing. Our healing center is a safe and protective place to build creative, trusting relationships within which to heal emotionally, psychologically, cognitively, creatively, and spiritually. You are welcome to work with me on any area of your life that needs your own loving, courageous attention.
Specific Issue(s) I'm Skilled at Helping With
"Be a Bitch, Build a Boundary." Please excuse my french, as the saying goes. I use this affirmation to help women remember that learning to create good personal boundaries after a lifetime as a pleaser feels like you are becoming a selfish, heartless human being. You seem to be losing all of your former graces and the qualities that made you a "really nice person," such as a deeply warm compassion for others, and an uncanny sense of how to make people happy. My own children told me when I began to change, "Mama, you used to be nice." I know the pains of changing such a deeply entrenched way of being in the world, and the joys that such deep inner work brings. You are no longer a victim of your own knee-jerk reaction to create and maintain harmony at any cost when you learn to say, "No," if you need to, or "Yes," if you decide to.
What I Love about Being a Psychotherapist
I love working with someone in a non-pathologizing manner as they grow from being frightened and ungrounded to becoming a person of courage and honesty. I get to see the very best in people, witness their vulnerabilities, help them give voice to their weaknesses and to find comfort and healing in their strengths. I love witnessing and supporting people as they find their way home to their own best self.