Miriam Bellamy, LMFT

Are you struggling to rebuild trust after an affair? If you are the one who strayed, you may be feeling overwhelming shame and a great fear that there is nothing you can do to save your marriage. If you have been betrayed, you may feel that everything you thought was true about your life and your history together is gone. You both may be wondering if there is hope. Maybe you have been working very hard to rebuild but find the pain and fear too overwhelming. Are you deeply worried about these things? If so, I'd like to help. It is important to know you are not alone. Most people who have been betrayed feel rage, have nightmares and panic attacks, and find themselves spending hour upon hour trying to piece together what was happening and when. Most people who have strayed from their vows feel helplessness along with terrible guilt and work doggedly to earn back trust. Many people work hard trying to rebuild their marriage but find themselves bumping into dead end after dead end. There are reasons for this. I'm here to help you navigate the path forward. With affair recovery counseling, I can assist you and your spouse in turning things around. There are no easy answers, but you can learn and master the principles that can guide you toward healing and ultimately toward a life of meaning and happiness. In addition to private affair recovery couples counseling I also offer individual counseling and group counseling for infidelity.

I've been practicing marriage and family counseling for 26 years. I am licensed in both Georgia and Colorado. I reside in Colorado and see people both in office in Golden and online. I travel to my Georgia office twice a year. I have office hours Monday through Thursday.

Often times one spouse is open to marriage counseling while the other is unsure or uninterested. Here are a few tips to consider if you are the spouse who wants the help: 1. Talk to them and tell them what you're feeling and what you'd like to do about it. 2. If they are still not interested, do some research and find a therapist who specializes in working with couples. 3. Schedule your appointment and invite your spouse to join you. 4. If they are still not interested, attend your initial session and see if you'd like to continue individually. 5. If you do, see if your spouse will attend just one to two sessions. Your therapist will be better able to help you if they do.

The industry average for people in therapy is 6 months or 25 sessions. I often see a shift in couples within the first 2-4 months. This can happen if you are coming together or just by yourself. The video you will find below is a Facebook Live video I did for my Neurofeedback Moms Facebook group. It has important tips for couples during our shelter in place living situations!