Mark Tinley, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

You know something isn't working. Maybe you're going through a divorce and the ground has shifted under your feet. Maybe you're successful on paper but feel disconnected — from your partner, your kids, yourself. Maybe anger keeps showing up when you don't want it to, or you're stuck in a cycle of anxiety that you've been powering through for years. You've been handling things on your own for a long time. But "handling it" isn't the same as actually dealing with it — and you're starting to feel the cost. Here's what I want you to know: You don't need to have it all figured out before you call. You don't need to know the right words. You just need to be willing to be honest about where you are. I've spent 20 years working with men who are navigating exactly these kinds of crossroads — relationship breakdowns, career pressure, identity questions, the weight of being the one who holds everything together. I'm direct, I'm practical, and I won't waste your time. We'll figure out what's actually going on, what you want, and how to get there. My approach draws on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Psychodynamic Therapy, and Gestalt — but what that means in plain language is this: we'll look at the patterns driving your behavior, understand where they came from, build real skills for managing your emotions and relationships, and get you moving toward the life you actually want. I also work extensively with couples. If your relationship is strained and you're not sure whether to stay or go, that's exactly the kind of moment I help people navigate. Ready to talk? Call me at 858-901-6274 for a free 15-minute consultation. You'll tell me what's going on, I'll tell you how I'd approach it, and you can decide if it feels like the right fit. No pressure, no commitment. Just a conversation.

What I Bring to the Room Before I became a therapist, I spent 22 years in the corporate world at a Fortune 100 tech company. I know what it's like to sit in meetings all day, come home running on empty, and wonder if this is really it. I also lived overseas for a year and a half and I'm married with four children — so when clients talk to me about career pressure, cross-cultural relationships, or the challenges of being a husband and father, I'm not just nodding along. I've lived it. That said, I'm not here to share my story — I'm here to help you with yours. What Therapy With Me Looks Like I'm empathetic but direct. I won't sugarcoat things, but I'll never be harsh either. I'm genuinely curious about what brought you here and I believe people can change when they're motivated to do the work. I also have a sense of humor — sometimes dark, sometimes ironic — because honesty and a little levity go a long way when you're doing hard things. In our sessions, you can expect: - A clear focus on what you actually want to change - Honest, practical feedback — not just reflective listening - Real tools and skills you can use between sessions - A space where you don't have to perform or pretend things are fine Who I Work With Best I'm at my best with men over 30 who are dealing with a major transition — divorce, career upheaval, relationship strain, or a growing sense that something needs to change even if they can't name what it is. I also work with couples who are trying to figure out whether to repair or let go. If you've never been to therapy before and you're skeptical about whether talking to someone will actually help — that's exactly the kind of person I work well with.