My Approach to Helping
On the outside things look like they are going great for you, so why don’t you feel better? You thought things would fall into place once you graduated, landed the job you wanted, or met that next relationship milestone but instead things feel overwhelming and definitely harder than you thought they'd be. Maybe you are constantly in your head, wondering about the perfect choice to make or how to keep everyone in your life happy. It can feel easier to stay stuck than to really spend time examining where things got off track and how to get back on track, or even why do you feel like there a track you need to be on ... Things that may have worked in the past aren’t working for you any longer. For some of you, you are realizing that those drinks at the end of the day or the marijuana to help you unwind are starting to feel less like solutions and more like things that are keeping you stuck.
I love working with folx who are self-reflective and who enjoy processing things out loud so we can explore together the unhelpful patterns that are playing out in your life right now. Sometimes this is looking at the beliefs you have developed about your self or the world ("I am not good enough, smart enough, attractive enough, etc.") and clues can be often be found in our experiences growing up, or in a toxic relationship or job that made a lasting impact on you. Other times we will look to understand other barriers to you living the life you want.