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Chloe Udell, Associate Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

Chloe Udell, Associate Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

Chicago, Illinois
VerifiedTelehealth Available

Professions: Marriage & Family Therapist, Psychotherapist

Languages: English

Telephone: 234-404-5351

My Approach to Therapy

If you feel stuck in the same arguments, disconnected from the people you love, or just weighed down by everything, you are not alone. It is exhausting to feel like you are trying so hard to fix things, yet you keep ending up in the same spot. You might be looking for a way to feel more like yourself again or for a relationship that feels like a safe place rather than a source of stress. I am here to help you make sense of the noise and find a path forward. In our sessions, you will find a space that is comfortable, down-to-earth, and focused on your story. We will work together to understand the habits that keep you stuck by looking at what is happening in your life today and how your past experiences might still be playing a role in how you feel. My approach is all about looking at the big picture. We will not just talk about problems on the surface. Instead, we will look at your whole life, including your family and your relationships. I use methods that help couples and individuals explore emotions and get to the heart of what they really need. Whether you are trying to save a relationship or just trying to navigate a big change in your life, we will move at a pace that feels right for you.

My Role as a Therapist

In my role as a therapist, I see myself as a collaborator and a steady guide as you navigate the complexities of your life and relationships. I believe therapy is most effective as a true partnership focused on helping you understand the why behind how you feel. Rather than looking at challenges in isolation, I look at the bigger picture of your family history and your current environment. A major part of our work involves exploring how your past experiences shape your present moments. These deeper reasons often act as a hidden blueprint for how you react to stress or connect with others today. By bringing these underlying influences into the light, we can better understand your current emotional responses and communication habits. This clarity allows us to address the root causes of why you might feel stuck, giving you the power to make different choices in the here and now. I provide a warm and non-judgmental space where you can feel truly seen and heard. While I bring the clinical framework to our sessions, you remain the primary expert on your own life. My goal is to help you work toward a more authentic and connected version of yourself.

My Therapy Focus

In my practice, I focus on both the why and the what of your experience to create a complete path toward change. I believe that understanding the why is essential for uncovering the deeper reasons behind how you feel and react today. Many current struggles are shaped by past experiences and the environment you grew up in. By bringing these underlying influences into the light, we can address the root of why you might feel stuck or disconnected. However, understanding the why is only half of the process. I also look closely at the what by examining the actual patterns and communication cycles happening in your life right now. This means we look at the specific ways you and the people in your life interact, identifying the repetitive loop that keeps certain problems alive. By focusing on these current dynamics, we can pinpoint exactly what needs to shift in your daily interactions to break old habits. Combining these approaches allows us to balance deep insight with practical action. We explore the meaning and values that drive your life while also developing strategic ways to navigate your relationships and environment more effectively. This dual focus ensures that our work is not just about reflection, but about moving toward a more intentional and authentic way of living. Above all, I provide a genuine and non-judgmental space where you remain the expert on your own journey as we work toward a more grounded and connected version of yourself.

Expertise & Specialties

Age Groups I Work With

TeensAdults

Groups I Work With

I specialize in helping couples and individuals break free from the repetitive cycles that create distance and distress. Whether you are navigating the crisis of infidelity, exploring the complexities of polyamory and ethical non-monogamy (ENM), or managing a major life transition, I provide a systemic and non-judgmental space to find emotional safety. My practice is inclusive of all LGBTQ+ communities and minority backgrounds. I am particularly passionate about supporting those navigating the unique stressors of life in Chicago. This includes the daily challenges of balancing work, family, and personal growth. Whether we are focused on repairing your relationship or your personal development, we will move at a pace that feels right for you.

Concerns & Challenges Addressed

Abuse / Abuse Survivor IssuesAdjusting to Change / Life TransitionsAnxietyAttachment IssuesCommunication ProblemsDepressionIdentity IssuesInfidelity / Affair Recovery

Therapeutic Approaches & Evidence-Based Methods

Bowen Family TherapyCollaborative TherapyEmotionally Focused TherapyExistential PsychotherapyFamily Systems TherapyGottman MethodHumanistic Psychology (humanism)Person-Centered Therapy (Rogerian Therapy)

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