What's My Approach to Therapy?
You might look like you’ve got it together—but inside, it’s chaos. Anxiety. obsessive compulsion (OCD) spirals. Overthinking everything. Burned out but still performing. You’ve read the books, done the podcasts, tried to out-think the problem. And here you are, scrolling therapist profiles, wondering if anything will actually work. Good news: it can. But it takes real work, not just good intentions.
I don’t do vague nodding or “tell me more about that” loops that go nowhere. I’m an active, direct therapist who helps you name what’s actually going on—and then do something about it. I’m Level 1 trained in Internal Family Systems (IFS), which means we’ll work with your internal patterns instead of fighting them. For couples, I use Relational Life Therapy (RLT) to cut through blame, shutdowns, and power struggles. You’ll both be heard—but I won’t let either of you hide.
One of my specialties is men’s work—real conversations about emotion, strength, connection, and not repeating what your dad did. I also work extensively with queer men navigating identity, shame, sex, dating, and how to belong in spaces that weren’t built with you in mind. These are two distinct areas of focus, and I take each seriously.
My approach is collaborative, grounded, and unapologetically honest. There’s room for humor. There’s room for contradiction. There’s room for all of you—and for the version of you that’s ready to live with less noise and more clarity. If you’re looking not just for insight but for real, actionable change—and you want a therapist who will support that and hold you accountable to the commitments you’ve made to yourself—we’ll probably work well together.
My Practice & Services
I’ve been working in mental health since 2007, with experience across individual, couples, family, and group therapy. Before becoming a therapist, I spent nearly a decade in financial services—where I realized the part I actually cared about was connecting with people and helping them navigate real life, not markets. That clarity led me to change careers, and I’ve never looked back.
Over the years, I’ve worked with a wide range of clients and challenges—from OCD and anxiety to relationship struggles, identity questions, and burnout. What keeps me in this work is simple: it’s meaningful, it’s real, and it works. Therapy isn’t magic, but when you’re showing up and I’m showing up, it can absolutely change lives.
Over time, my practice has become more focused, more honest, and more effective. I’ve learned what actually helps people change—and what just burns time. I no longer try to be everything to everyone. Instead, I work best with clients who are ready to look clearly at their patterns, take themselves seriously, and want a therapist who will do the same. The work I do now is deeper, more direct, and more satisfying—for my clients and for me.
Specific Issue(s) I'm Skilled at Helping With
High-Achieving Professionals
I work with high performers who look put together but feel exhausted inside. People who are great at solving everyone else's problems, but don't know how to stop working, fix their relationships, or feel at home in their own life. If you're used to holding it all together, therapy gives you a place to finally be honest, and build a life that doesn't depend on grinding yourself down.
Perfectionism and Imposter Syndrome
You've done everything "right," and it still doesn't feel like enough. The bar keeps moving, the self-doubt keeps talking, and the fear of being found out never quite lets up. I help clients challenge the internal systems that push them to prove their worth over and over, and start building a new kind of self-respect: not earned, just yours.
OCD and Overthinking
I specialize in OCD, especially the 'Pure O' subtype, intrusive thoughts, mental checking, endless rumination, and the fear that you're secretly broken or dangerous. If your mind runs constant worst-case scenarios and won't leave you alone, we'll work together to slow the spiral, build clarity, and stop reacting to thoughts as if they're facts. You don't need more reassurance. You need a new relationship with your mind.
Men's Work
I work with men who are ready to get real, who are done with emotional shut-down, social isolation, or defaulting to anger when they're actually hurting. Men who want more depth in their relationships but don't know where to start. In therapy, we unpack all the messages about what it means to be a man, and build something more honest, flexible, and human in its place.
Gay, Bi, and Queer Men
Much of my work centers on helping gay, bi, and queer men navigate the complexity of identity, emotion, sex, dating, and belonging. As a cis gay man, I know what it's like to move through a world that wasn't built with us in mind. I work with men facing shame, disconnection, anxiety, and all the quiet pressure to 'get it right' in every domain. You don't need to educate me. You just need to show up.
How My Own Struggles Made Me a Better Therapist
I didn't become a therapist by accident. I come from a violent family. I've worked through religious trauma, OCD, and the long, messy process of coming out. I know what it's like to feel trapped inside your own mind, to question your worth, or to carry shame that never belonged to you.
Doing my own work - real therapy, not just insight - changed my life. And it made me a far better therapist. I don't sit in the expert chair pretending I have it all figured out. I sit across from you as someone who gets how hard it is to face this stuff - and who knows that it's absolutely possible to move through it. That's why I do what I do.
Importance of the Client-Therapist Alliance
The client-therapist relationship is everything. If there?s no real connection, therapy doesn?t go anywhere?no matter how skilled the therapist is or how motivated the client might be. And I say that as someone who?s sat on both sides of the room.
Therapy works best when you feel like your therapist gets it. That you can be real. That you?re not performing or censoring. Good chemistry doesn?t mean we?re the same?it means there?s trust, honesty, and a rhythm that makes the work possible.
That?s why I offer a free consult before we commit to working together. It gives us both a chance to feel out the fit and see if there?s a foundation worth building on. If we move forward, I?ll check in regularly about how therapy feels for you?not just the content, but the relationship itself. And if something?s off, I want to know. This is your time, your process, and you deserve to get the most out of it.
The Duration and Frequency of Therapy
The duration and frequency of therapy can vary widely from person to person. There are some who have a specifically defined issue and really want a pragmatic solution for that issue alone. This type of therapy is usually shorter in duration and frequency -- say 1 to 2 times a week for 5-10 weeks or so. Others want to work on what I call "issues of being" such as managing relationships, life transitions or other existential issues. This type of therapy can be 1 to 4+ times a month for many months or years.
I have found that most people want to work on a mix of concrete and abstract issues, so chances are the duration and frequency will most likely be somewhere between the 2 scenarios above. As we get to know each other, and as the issues become clearer, we will work together so that we can determine what duration and frequency will work best for your situation, always mindful of any limitations you may have.
Clinicians who offer sliding scale payment structures may offer lower or reduced fees based on an individual's ability to pay. Please contact this clinician for more details regarding their fees or sliding scale policy.