Find a Therapist in Randolph, NJ

The longer I've worked in the mental health field, the more I've come to appreciate that many of the struggles that leave us feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or anxious are rooted in our very human desire for certainty, safety, and control. Our brains are wired to seek predictability. When life feels uncertain, painful, or outside of our control, it's natural to search for ways to regain a sense of security. Sometimes this shows up through perfectionism, overthinking, people-pleasing, rigidity, self-criticism, or trying to anticipate every possible outcome. While these strategies often develop for understandable reasons, and may have even helped us survive at one point, they can eventually become exhausting, isolating, and keep us from living fully in the present. At the foundation of my work is dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), not simply as a set of coping skills, but as a way of approaching life with greater mindfulness, flexibility, self-awareness, and acceptance. I am deeply passionate about teaching practical life skills that help people build emotional resilience while creating lives that feel meaningful and aligned with their values. At the same time, my work extends beyond skills alone. I view each person through a humanistic, trauma-informed, and existential lens, recognizing that our relationships, identities, lived experiences, and search for meaning all shape the ways we understand ourselves and navigate the world. My approach is collaborative, compassionate, and grounded in the belief that you are more than a diagnosis or a collection of symptoms. Together, we'll explore the patterns that no longer serve you, develop greater self-understanding, and build the confidence to respond to life's challenges with intention rather than fear. Whether we're practicing mindfulness, exploring the impact of past experiences, strengthening relationships, or learning to tolerate uncertainty, my goal is to help you loosen the grip of overcontrol, cultivate self-compassion, and create a life that feels authentic, connected, and fulfilling. Healing isn't about becoming a different person. It's about reconnecting with the person you've always been beneath the fear, self-doubt, and protective strategies that once kept you safe. If you're ready to begin that journey, I'd be honored to walk alongside you.

As a mindfulness-based relationship specialist, I help you build a solid foundation for you to create an exceptional relationship. Good relationships require both personal and relational growth. For this reason, I can work with you individually or partnered. I embrace a compassionate approach to help you navigate tough conversations, strengthen self-expression, and practice healthy accountability. You will learn ways to take responsibility for the health of your relationship(s), decrease personal stress, increase empathy and compassion, strengthen connection, and improve your sex life. I also enjoy working with women individually who want to better understand their evolving sexual selves, who want to learn to quiet their thoughts and trust their intuitive wisdom and live in alignment with their minds, bodies and spirit. My integrative approach allows me to play an active role in helping you heal your body, mind, and heart by offering guidance, direct feedback, and home practice exercises. My therapeutic style incorporates an eclectic blend of Eastern and Western methodologies, drawing on cutting-edge research in the field of mindfulness, relationships, and sexual health. Together, we examine how your individual thinking, relationship dynamics, family, social circumstances, and physical health all impact your relationship as a whole. My academic and educational background combines with my personal experiences practicing mindfulness, meditation, and spiritual attunement. I offer morning, daytime, and some evening appointments, both in-person and through video conferencing (telehealth). To make an appointment with me at Center for Intimate Relationships, click the links to call or email me, or contact me through my website.

Brandon Gommer is a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) with over 8 years of experience in the mental health field. He has worked in outpatient and inpatient mental health settings with adults, with a focus on trauma and addiction treatment. Brandon has also led intensive outpatient program (IOP) and partial hospitalization program (PHP) groups for adolescents. He has a specific passion for working with adults struggling with unresolved childhood trauma, complex trauma, posttraumatic stress (PTSD), substance abuse, and addictions of all kinds.

Most therapists will smile, nod, and ask, “How does that make you feel?”—but if that actually fixed the problem, you wouldn’t still be looking for someone who gets it. I believe people come to therapy because they’re tired of feeling alone with their struggles, not because they want a scripted response. My specialty is addiction recovery, but I’ve learned over the years that addiction rarely travels solo. It brings along old wounds, shame, anxiety, depression, relationship stress, and the feeling that you’re supposed to hold everything together on your own. My approach is steady, honest, and human, and I meet you where you are. I don’t offer cookie-cutter advice or quick fixes. Therapy with me is about uncovering the resilience you already have—even if you’ve stopped believing in it. Whatever you’re facing—addiction, relationship pain, or something you can’t yet name—I’ll meet you there with honesty, compassion, and zero judgment.

I use an insightful and personalized approach to help clients identify barriers to happiness and gain a better understanding of their emotions and experiences. Knowing yourself deeply is an essential ingredient in creating the life you want, and this type of emotional learning ideally occurs within the context of a non-judgmental therapeutic relationship. My goal is to help clients explore behavioral patterns and achieve psychological well-being. My approach focuses on helping clients with a range of issues such as grief, depression, anxiety, interpersonal conflict, and anger management. I provide clients with the emotional self-regulation tools, coping and communication skills, mindfulness techniques, and self-management strategies needed to cultivate change.

Christopher utilizes a variety of therapeutic approaches. These approaches are brought together in different ways depending on the person or people that he is working with. The root of his therapeutic style is pastoral counseling, whereby he helps the client incorporate spiritual dimensions of both the problem(s) and the ways to move forward. He also completed an advanced specialty in behavioral health during his clinical pastoral residency at Lutheran Hospital of Indiana. He is experienced working with people from a wide variety of faith backgrounds. His approach is also usually rooted in a systems understanding of the client's situation.

In my over 25 years of experience in offering psychotherapy to individuals, families and couples, I have seen, time and time again, the inherent ability each person has for healing and change that can be stimulated and helped through therapy. My work is to support you in this process, employing my advanced training in an array of successful therapeutic approaches including mindfulness therapy and cognitive behavioral therapy, to design and facilitate a treatment plan to meet the personal needs of each client individual, family or couple.

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If you're ready to make a change, I can help. Sessions are dynamic and change-oriented. Working together I will assist you in gaining an awareness of the faulty thinking that stems from your past and learn to replace negative thinking patterns with a more positive, realistic outlook. We'll get to the root of what's fueling your struggles, and then we'll work toward applying new ideas to help you create healthier behaviors and pursue happiness more effectively. Using Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) with a humanistic approach, I can assist you in looking at yourself and the world with a new perspective. You'll experience relief from symptoms, change self-defeating behaviors, and enjoy better quality relationships. My goal is to help you actively and effectively create sustainable change in your life. People tell me that they experience more self-compassion and less self-blame through their work with me.

Results focused therapy. I specialize in treating PTSD and Complex Trauma, anxiety disorders, Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, suicidal tendencies, grieving survivors of suicide, sleep problems, chronic pain, drug andor alcohol problems, and depression. I am committed to working with you to successfully resolve your problem using a wide range of rich therapeutic approaches. Well-known for my active and resourceful approach, I consider your time valuable, and avoid dwelling on nonessentials and aimless talking, focusing instead on developing actions and solutions drawing from a wide-variety of therapies, you can apply immediately. I am knowledgeable in (and teach) psychopharmacology and welcome the opportunities to work in collaboration with the prescribing doctor, especially when side-effects, "residual symptoms," or adherence are of concern. Significant others may be involved in the therapeutic process when appropriate.